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What I can Do Now?

Seems like most of the folks I talk to nowadays are stressed out. Lots of people getting laid off, or not knowing how to deal with stress, or how to find the next step on the path of life. What can you do now? Even though a lot is out of our control, there’s still actions we can take to make our lives better, no matter what is happening in the world! Here’s some things I thought of that might help! Please add to this list in the comments if you think of something else.

Eat something, take a nap, go for a walk, call a friend.
Let Go and Let God.
Ask an older person for advice, apologize if you need to, act with honor.

“Forgive Ourselves, Forgive Others, Let Go, Pray for Them, Do Service for Others, An Act of Kindness, Call Sponsor, Go to a Meeting, Be a Team Player, Do Community Service, Get a new Job, Be Graceful, Be Eloquent, Have Patience, Be in Acceptance, Have Compassion, Have Empathy, Be Impeccable with your Words, Be Thankful, Be Open to Change, Be the Change you want to See, Be Willing, Be Flexible, Remain Teachable, Have a Beginner’s Mind, Work on Physical Health, Exercise, Suspend your Judgment, Suspend your Thinking, Be a Change Agent, Call People in Need, Volunteer at the Food Band, or a Homeless Shelter, Help an Older Person, Watch someone’s animal while they are on Vacation. Learn something New, Get out of Selfish Intentions, Meditate, Be Mindful, Use Non-Violent Language, Treat someone suffering as if they have a Cancer, Speak Quietly as if your talking to your Best Friend, Be Sensitive, Remain Vulnerable, Surrender and Join Humanity, Love yourself Unconditionally, Quit Fighting, Stop Rationalizing Others Lives, Stop Analyzing and move into your Heartfelt Aspirations, Hold multiple Truths, Be the Universal Observer in your Life, Radical Acceptance, Be a Good Loser, Choose Happiness, Hold Space for Other’s Belief’s, Thrive with Imperfection, Take it Easy, Let Go Let Higher Power, Let Others Win, Let Others Be Right Too, Choose to be Happy not Right, Earn Trust Slowly, Speak in a Way so that Others can Hear You, Develop a Teflon Skin for Bad Things, Offer Solutions, Reframe others’ Thoughts with Permission, Communicate your Needs Fairly, Respond, Don’t React, Don’t Speak Out, just because you Hear something you Disagree With, Let Go Of Agenda Thinking, Take the Longer View, Value Safety, Roll with Resistance, Avoid Argumentation, Be Courageous, Use Active Listening, Don’t Personalize what Other’s Say, Be Fearless, Have Limitless Thinking, Have Mutually Desired Outcomes, Collaborate in Partnership, Be Authentic, Be Genuine, Be Assertive, Be Sensitive to Others Viewpoints, Agree To Disagree, Tell Your Truth, Take care of your Sexual Needs Yourself, Do Not Compromise Another’s Integrity, Use “I” Language, It’s a “WE” Thing not a Me Thing, Honor Other’s Strength’s,” – M. Kowalski

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Honor Yourself

from digital artist Tetyana Erhart, Ukraine

“Men earn their value through their actions, accomplishments, and ability to provide, while women are born with innate value, embodying beauty, grace, and nurturing energy. This is why men are biologically wired to chase their desires, while women are wired to attract them effortlessly.

Many women forget their power or use it in ways that diminish their worth. Instead of embracing their natural magnetism, they plead for love, care, and attention—when, in reality, they only need to nurture themselves to draw everything they desire toward them.

A woman who prioritizes herself—her well-being, her emotional health, her purpose—becomes irresistible. She doesn’t need to chase or beg; she simply radiates an energy that compels the right people, opportunities, and love toward her.

The world has conditioned women to believe they must prove their worth, to give endlessly without receiving in return. But true feminine energy is about receiving just as much as giving. It is about being in flow rather than forcing things to happen.

A woman in her power does not convince a man to love her. She embodies the kind of energy that makes a man want to cherish, protect, and commit to her. She understands that desperation repels, but self-respect and self-care magnetize devotion.

When a woman takes care of herself—emotionally, mentally, and physically—she automatically becomes more attractive. Not just in a superficial way, but in a deep, energetic way that commands respect and admiration.

She no longer settles for breadcrumbs of love. She knows her presence alone is a gift, and she waits for the man who recognizes it without needing to be reminded or begged.

To all women reading this: You are not here to convince someone to choose you. You are here to choose yourself first. And in doing so, you will attract those who truly see and appreciate you.

Honor yourself. Take care of yourself. Walk away from anything that makes you feel less than worthy. The right love will always find its way to a woman who stands in her power.

Let go of the need to chase or prove your worth. You were born with it. All you need to do is own it.”

– Abhikesh

Difficult People

Difficult People

Few things can make us feel crazier than expecting something from someone who has nothing to give. Few things can frustrate us more than trying to make a person someone he or she isn’t; we feel crazy when we try to pretend that person is someone he or she is not. We may have spent years negotiating with reality concerning particular people from our past and our present. We may have spent years trying to get someone to love us in a certain way, when that person cannot or will not.

It is time to let it go. It is time to let him or her go. That doesn’t mean we can’t love that person anymore. It means that we will feel the immense relief that comes when we stop denying reality and begin accepting. We release that person to be who he or she actually is. We stop trying to make that person be someone he or she is not. We deal with our feelings and walk away from the destructive system.

We learn to love and care differently in a way that takes reality into account.

We enter into a relationship with that person on new terms – taking our needs and ourselves into account. If a person is addicted to alcohol, other drugs, misery, or other people, we let go of his or her addiction; we take our hands off it. We give his or her life back. And we, in the process, are given our life and freedom in return.

We stop letting what we are not getting from that person control us. We take responsibility for our life. We go ahead with the process of loving and taking care of ourselves.

We decide how we want to interact with that person, taking reality and our own best interests into account. We get angry, we feel hurt, but we land in a place of forgiveness. We set him or her free, and we become set free from bondage.

This is the heart of detaching in love.

Today, I will work at detaching in love from troublesome people in my life. I will strive to accept reality in my relationships. I will give myself permission to take care of myself in my relationships, with emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual freedom for both people as my goal.

to find love

To a young woman seeking the right young man:

So many believe that love is a romance; that it is something into which you fall, suddenly, effortlessly.

Let me tell you what is true love.

Two people live together, care for each other, weather the storms together

—and one day they discover they cannot live without one another.

That is love.

Don’t fall in love. Create love.

  • Rabbi Tzvi Freeman

Week of June 22nd

The planets line up at dawn

Sun at 28 Gemini
Mercury DIRECT at 5 Gemini
Venus at 25 Taurus (rulership)
Mars at 18 Aries (rulership)
Jupiter at 6 Aries
Saturn RETROGRADE at 25 Aquarius (rulership)
Neptune at 25 Pisces (rulership)
Pluto RETROGRADE at 28 Capricorn
North Node at 22 Taurus

SUMMER SOLSTICE. Sun into Cancer, and the highpoint of LIGHT for the year! The longest day and the shortest night. We have the Sun shifting signs, and Venus (Love) conjunct the North Node (Destiny) in her home sign of Taurus. This aspect is about coming home to our physical body… coming home to a sense of comfort. Taurus is about becoming self sufficient.

Wednesday, June 22nd: Moon in Aries and Venus into Gemini. This is an energetic combination that adds fuel to the fire of yesterday’s rebirth. We become more sociable, intellectual, and light hearted. Venus in Gemini is related to The Lovers card in the tarot. The next few weeks is a great time for recommitting to relationships.

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Week of December 20th: Winter Solstice

CURRENTLY:
Sun at 0 Capricorn
Mercury at 11 Capricorn
Venus RETROGRADE at 26 Capricorn
Mars at 5 Sagittarius
Jupiter at 28 Aquarius
Saturn at 10 Aquarius (rulership)
Neptune at 20 Pisces (rulership)
Pluto at 25 Capricorn
North Node at 1 Gemini

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There will be continued developments this week from the dramatic Full Moon in Gemini on Saturday night. This Moon inspires us to start a new story in our lives; a new narrative. The Sun enters Capricorn on Tuesday, ushering in the Winter Solstice. We leave the optimistic fires of Sagittarius for the stern, cold hillsides of Capricorn. This turns our focus to the foundations of our lives, and creating new stability. With Capricorn season, the mood withers, and we are faced with reality, the bottom line, our career, finances and survival.

Monday, December 20th:  Moon in Cancer makes some lovely aspects but brings heightened sensitivity, so step carefully around peoples’ feelings. Go with the flow of your life, and put your energies towards things you have control over. The Moon in Cancer (the Moon’s natural home), on a MONDAY (day of the Moon), means you can do big Moon Magick. Anything involving security, the home, plants, cooking, nurturing, children, fertility or creativity is highlighted.

Tuesday, December 21st: Winter Solstice. Sun enters Capricorn at 8:00am, and the Moon is void-of-course in Cancer, entering Leo at 1:54pm Pacific. The Moon opposes Venus and Pluto too, which brings intensity to the day. Relationship issues could arise in order to be healed and released. Slow down and take your time with projects – there’s no rush.

Wednesday, December 22nd: Moon in Leo gives us a refreshed, lighter attitude today. Lead with your heart and focus on self expression. There’s some tricky aspects in the afternoon though: Moon opposes Saturn and squares Uranus in the late morning. This could bring up difficulties, and you’ll need to work to solve them. Patience is the only way through these energies. Take a break if you need to.

Thursday, December 23rd: Moon in Leo sextiles Neptune, Pluto and Venus today. This can bring small, positive developments with relationships. Peace can be achieved, and people will seek to connect through natural affinity. Today is good for seeking acknowledgement and cooperation from those in leadership positions. Also, entertainment will bring relaxation and happiness.

Friday, December 24th: Christmas Eve. Moon in Virgo makes us budget conscious, so last-minute shopping could become practically oriented. Also, the third and final Saturn square Uranus is exact today, igniting the friction between the old way of doing things and the new world approaching us. This has been the ongoing influence of this entire year – the battle between the old, traditional world and the new, progressive future. Choose your battles.

Saturday, December 25th: Christmas Day. Moon in Virgo trines Uranus and Mercury, which can bring sudden surprises. It will be a busy day. The best use of Virgo energy today is to follow a plan, put out healthy snacks, be of service and keep the house tidy. Avoid criticism and over-analysis. There could be a dark undercurrent – with retrograde Venus conjuncting Pluto for the second time. Release old, toxic energies and focus on healing.

Sunday, December 26th: Moon in Libra enters her 4th quarter. Kwanzaa begins, and in England it’s Boxing Day. The Moon trines Venus and Pluto today, bringing positive developments to the themes of this week. Mercury also sextiles Neptune which allows our minds to wander and be inspired. Spend quality time with the ones you love.

Week of November 22nd

CURRENTLY:
Sun at 0 Sagittarius
Mercury DIRECT at 25 Scorpio
Venus at 14 Capricorn
Mars at 15 Scorpio (rulership, do Mars Magick!)
Jupiter at 24 Aquarius
Saturn at 8 Aquarius (rulership)
Neptune RETROGRADE at 20 Pisces (rulership)
Pluto at 24 Capricorn
North Node at 1 Gemini

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There will be continued developments this week from the dramatic Full Moon Eclipse last Thursday. The energies around an eclipse are tricky. The best way to handle it, is to do chores, grunt work, meetings, or phone calls that you’ve been avoiding for awhile. An eclipse often helps us see things inside us and around us that have been hidden, but the best way to deal with it is to limit sudden surprises in your life. That means dealing with your life in a deep way.

In ancient times, an eclipse was thought to be a portent of doom – corresponding to the head (North Node) and tail (South Node) of a great dragon. The dragon’s head is forever hungry and consuming, so the idea is, if you’re handling things you’ve been procrastinating on, you’re feeding the dragon’s head true sustenance, and the neverending hunger might be abated. In two weeks we’ll have to deal with another eclipse involving the tail of the dragon. More on that later…

The Sun entered Sagittarius today! We leave the watery, ocean depths of Scorpio for the sunny hillsides of the Centaur. This week starts in the third quarter of the Moon, turning into a fallow Moon on Saturday. With Sagittarius season, the mood lightens and we become more adventurous, philosophical, and goal-oriented. Be on the look out for false optimism and arrogance though.

Monday, November 22nd:  Moon in Cancer. Everyone will be hyper-sensitive, so careful not to offend anyone today. Avoid social complications or “rocking the boat”. Instead, go with the current of your life, and put your energies towards things you have control over. The Moon in Cancer (the Moon’s natural home), on a MONDAY (day of the Moon), means you can do big Moon Magick. Anything involving security, the home, plants, cooking, nurturing, children, fertility or creativity is highlighted.

Tuesday, November 23rd: Moon in Cancer continues; she opposes Venus, then trines Mars and Neptune. Still avoid confronting anyone today – indulge yourself instead. Creativity is accessible, so develop ideas. Good for love, tending plants and animals, opening up and clearing the house. Moon opposing Pluto in the evening can put us in a dark mood, so focus on healing.

Wednesday, November 24th: Moon into Leo at 8am Pacific gives us a refreshed, lighter attitude today. This is further enhanced by the Moon conjuncting the Sun and Mercury, newly in Sagittarius. Have some fun! Mercury in Sagittarius sets our minds free and allows us to explore our personal life perspectives for the next few weeks.

Thursday, November 25th: Moon in Leo is the PERFECT placement for Thanksgiving. People will lead from the heart and seek to connect through natural affinity. Today is also good for seeking acknowledgement and cooperation from those in leadership positions; although you shouldn’t be working. Performances will be first rate.

Friday, November 26th: Moon void-of-course All Day in Leo makes this a bad day to spend money. We are more likely to buy things on a whim and regret it later. Can you do Black Friday shopping tomorrow? Moon goes into Virgo at 6:12pm Pacific, which makes us much more discerning and budget conscious.

Saturday, November 27th: Moon in Virgo enters her 4th quarter. Today we balance the books, manage our health, and tackle anything requiring attention to detail. We are busy busy busy. The Moon makes a couple of squares with Mercury and the Sun, and trines Uranus around 4:15pm. It could be an evening of pleasant surprises.

Sunday, November 28th: Moon in Virgo, going void-of-course at 4pm Pacific. Today we do weekly shopping and get organized. The Moon makes five positive aspects today, culminating with a lovely Sun conjunct Mercury in Sagittarius. This means that Mercury is “via combusta”, or lost in the fires of the Sun, and we must operate on instinct. Hanukkah begins at sundown.

One sided relationships

I’ve had a few one-sided relationships in my life, and of course it all started with my relationship with my alcoholic father. When I saw this picture from the “Rising Woman” website, it really reminded me of growing up with a distant father. Seems like many kids who grew up in the 70’s experienced the same thing.

My dad had very low self esteem, and no tools to manage his emotions. The only thing he knew to do was drink and create emotional and physical distance from people. When my Mom left him in 1969, he punished her by emotionally abandoning me. The result was I had difficulty trusting men, and would usually choose someone who was a workaholic, heavy drinker, physically compromised or burdened with responsibilities.

Thanks to my work in programs like Alanon, I’ve been able to work through a lot of these issues. Alanon is free and available to anyone dealing with an alcoholic or addict. I highly recommend it! Here’s more information from Rising Woman about one sided relationships with romantic partners:

“Ever find yourself clinging to a one-sided relationship with an emotionally unavailable partner?

A good question to ask when we notice this is:

“What part of me is it that wants this so badly?”

Sometimes it’s our most wounded self… or our “child-self” that takes over and gets caught in the pain and fear of not being chosen.

… The fear of being abandoned.

Our emotions are powerful. And to become more Conscious and self-loving… It’s our job to learn how to listen to our emotions and act from a place of self-worth.

(Rather than react out of discomfort.)

We often simply mask our discomfort to avoid feeling abandoned, unloved, or unworthy, without really going to the root cause.

We’re temporarily soothing ourselves with a chase… or giving ourselves away in dead-end relationships.

… But we’re not actually getting what we want or what we deserve from a relationship.

If they say they can’t commit – Believe them.

If they tell you they aren’t ready – Believe them.

If they say “I like you, but I’m selfish” – Believe them.

People don’t necessarily want to hurt us, but the reality is, unless they’ve done their inner-work and are aware enough to act Consciously, their actions may be entirely self-serving; which leaves you feeling unsupported.

It’s up to you to be your own wise, nurturing and loving inner-parent.

Remind yourself that it’s safe to be loved…

That healthy love doesn’t have to be boring…

Learn to see the signs of when you might be confusing chaos with chemistry.

You are here to be loved and cherished.

You have the capacity to step into your worth. And stretch yourself to show up powerfully in all of your relationships.

It’s time.

PS. If you’d like to learn more…

Take the short quiz to discover your unique Relationship Signature here: https://risingwoman.com/discover/

Women who chase avoidant men

“We may find distant or avoidant partners alluring because their avoidance is a challenge for our ego …

We might find it more exciting to be caught up in a push-pull dynamic with someone, than to say yes to love that is readily available and healthy for us.

The excitement comes from eroticizing rejection – it feeds that part of us that still feels like have something to prove.

Prove we’re lovable or worthy. That we are so special that we can change someone’s mind or behaviour.

But that excitement you feel is also draining your energy and soul-sucking on so many levels.

When we abandon ourselves for someone who’s undeserving of our energy, our inner-child is is usually hurting deeply and feeling afraid to be alone.

It’s ok to walk away when your heart isn’t being cherished, honored or supported.

We’re all going to have days where we show up as the worst version of ourselves.

But at the end of the day, we all deserve to be with someone who we know is in our corner.

Someone who loves us on the hard days and treats the relationship as sacred.

Any time we waste chasing someone to give us love, there’s an unmet internal need for love and nurturance toward our inner-child.

You don’t need someone to reflect back your wounds without being willing to heal with you.

You don’t need someone to trigger all of your insecurities by treating you like an after-thought or avoiding intimacy.

It might feel unnatural to let go of this type of connection because you’re breaking a very old pattern … you might even find it “boring” to move towards love that doesn’t trigger you.

Don’t worry, this doesn’t make you “crazy”, it means you really want to heal.

And to heal, you have to practice letting healthy love in.

Healing occurs as you sever your addictions to shadow relationships and move toward people who hold you in your highest light.

Healing comes from doing Self-acceptance work and making the relationship with YOU and your inner-child the number one relationship in your life.

And healing occurs from understanding yourself and your true nature in relationship.”

– from risingwoman.com