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Astrological week

Autumn has arrived, the veil between the worlds is getting thinner, and the darkness approaches. We have a transformative week before us. We are currently in the darkest phase of the monthly moon cycle, preparing for the New Moon in Libra on Wednesday. Lots of old feelings and issues could be coming up, so we can release them. Rest and give yourself time to reflect on how you’d like the upcoming Moon cycle to go. If you’d like a personal reading on how this Libra cycle will effect you, you can book a short reading with me here for $45.

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Have a great day!

Week of September 27th

Valentine Cameron Prinsep – At the First Touch of Winter, Summer Fades Away, 1897

CURRENTLY:
Sun at 4 Libra (in it’s fall, no Sun Magick now)
Mercury RETROGRADE at 25 Libra
Venus at 18 Scorpio (detriment, no Venus Magick now)
Mars at 8 Libra (detriment, no Mars Magick now)
Jupiter RETROGRADE at 23 Aquarius
Saturn RETROGRADE at 7 Aquarius (rulership)
Neptune RETROGRADE at 21 Pisces (rulership)
Pluto RETROGRADE at 24 Capricorn
North Node at 6 Gemini

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We begin this week with a balsamic, fallow Moon, building towards a New Moon in Libra on Wednesday, October 6th. Leading up to this New Moon, we have an opportunity to release our relationship blocks – especially romantic ones. The planets Venus (women) and Mars (men) are both in their detriments right now, which means they are unable to express their natures. Everyone is going through some new growth challenges. The dark of the Moon, leading up to a New Moon in Libra, is a time for self examination about what you are projecting onto your partner. Also, we are wrapping things up, finishing projects and adjusting to new conditions.

Mercury is stopped in the sky, and went retrograde at 25 Libra on Sunday. With six planets now retrograde, this is an appropriate time for looking back. Also, Saturn and Pluto are slowing down, preparing to go Direct next week, which can make everything feel very real, and put some of us in survival mode. Be patient and open to learning how to live a better life, because Saturn wants us to “level up”. If you have difficult work to do (that you’ve been putting off), or decision to make, now is the time.

Monday, September 27th: Moon in Gemini makes two big aspects today: square to Neptune and trine to Mars. We start the week with lots of chatty, social energy, but the square to Neptune can have us living in daydreams. Use the teamwork vibe of Mars in Libra to get things done.

Tuesday, September 28th: Moon in Cancer enters her 4th quarter, and we are in the dark of the Moon. This is a week of rest. No big aspects today, so take it easy and take care of your emotional needs. Moon in Cancer is in her rulership, and insights into our feelings can be very healing at the time.

Wednesday, September 29th: Moon in Cancer, and two BIG aspects: Venus trines Neptune in Pisces, and the Sun in Libra trines Saturn. The Venus trine makes us dreamy, creative and imaginative. Use your instincts. The Sun trine brings delight to hard work, and we can make solid progress with meaningful projects. It’s a great day. The Cancer Moon, could bring a need for solitude and reflection. Give yourself what you need.

Thursday,  September 30th: Moon void-of-course in Cancer ALL DAY, until she enters Leo at 5:53pm Pacific. With a Cancer Moon void, do things that increase your feeling of security. No big risks today, and avoid getting into squabbles with people, because they will be hyper sensitive. Try to hang out at home and eat a good meal. There’s also a bunch of Moon aspects, but the big event today is Venus in Scorpio squaring Jupiter in Aquarius. There could be disillusionment with a relationship. Don’t make any big decisions until November though.

Friday,  October 1stMoon in Leo makes aspects with the Sun, Mars and an opposition with Uranus. We’ll all be feeling pretty good today, but expect eccentric, strange surprises with the opposition around 7:30pm. Great evening to see performances, or engage in heart-centered activities.

Saturday, October 2ndMoon in Leo goes void-of-course at 4:43pm and stays void all evening. Before that, the Moon makes a ton of different aspects, including an opposition to Jupiter and a square to Venus. It’s a rapidly shifting day.

Sunday,  October 3rd: Moon in Virgo, and Mercury in Libra trines Jupiter in Aquarius around 5pm. Of course today is good for tidying up the house, running errands, and fixing anything broken. Toss stuff out and let things go – someone else can use it.

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“Sometimes, even to live is an act of courage” – Seneca

Several years ago I bought a book on the philosophy of Epictetus – the ancient Greek philosopher that lived in 55 A.D. I was profoundly effected by his words of wisdom, but only recently I discovered he was also the founder of Stocism.

Let me tell you, Stoicism is totally what I’m in to these days.

Remember that Stoicism isn’t about judging other people. It’s not a moral philosophy you’re supposed to project and enforce onto the world. No, it’s a personal philosophy that’s designed to direct your behavior. This is what Marcus Aurelius meant when he said: “Be tolerant with others and strict with yourself.”

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Definition from Britannica: “Stoicism, a school of thought that flourished in Greek and Roman antiquity. It was one of the loftiest and most sublime philosophies in the record of Western civilization. In urging participation in human affairs, Stoics have always believed that the goal of all inquiry is to provide a mode of conduct characterized by tranquillity of mind and certainty of moral worth.”

Week of August 30th

CURRENTLY:
Sun at 8 Virgo
Mercury at 0 Libra
Venus at 16 Libra (in rulership!! Do Venus Magick now)
Mars at 19 Virgo
Jupiter RETROGRADE at 25 Aquarius
Saturn RETROGRADE at 8 Aquarius (rulership)
Neptune RETROGRADE at 22 Pisces (rulership)
Pluto RETROGRADE at 24 Capricorn
North Node at 6 Gemini

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We begin this week with a balsamic, fallow Moon, building towards a New Moon at 16 Virgo next Monday, Labor Day, September 6th. Leading up to this New Moon, we have an opportunity to release our perfectionism, laziness, self criticism, procrastination, and cluttered houses (i.e. Sun in Virgo). We are wrapping things up, finishing projects and adjusting to new, uncertain conditions. Honestly, it’s a tough time for many people.

We are in a world of extremes, and it’s never seemed so pronounced as it does right now. The Western side of the country is on fire, while a huge, catastrophic hurricane sliced through and leveled the south. Mercury entered Libra Sunday night, which will hopefully create a way for us to listen to and help each other. This is a good position for partnerships, negotiation, and creative activity. This Venus-ruled Mercury placement can bring harmony to life. Celebrate art and love.

The Sun in Virgo is squaring the North and South Nodes of the Moon this week. Watch for sign posts directing you to your future. Mars in Virgo will oppose Neptune in Pisces, and trine Pluto in Capricorn this week, setting off the same aspect that Venus and Mercury encountered recently. Mars wants us to put our plans into ACTION.

Monday, August 30th: Moon in Gemini enters her 4th quarter, and we are in the dark of the Moon for the next several days. Don’t work too hard this week. The dark of the Moon is a time to rest and reflect. Moon trine Saturn puts our emotions in affinity with our ambitions, and smooths over any rough spots. Moon in Gemini encourages us to talk about it.

Tuesday, August 31st: Moon in Gemini goes void at 1:45pm Pacific for the rest of the day. She also makes five aspects, so ride the waves. The Moon goes through every sign, and aspects every planet EVERY month. The Moon ties the astrology together. Keep a low profile today with the void moon. Follow plans that have already been made.

Wednesday, September 1st: Moon in Cancer makes a few minor aspects. We might need solitude, since our sensitivities are at a monthly peak. Give yourself whatever you need today.

Thursday,  September 2nd: Moon in Cancer loves a visit to a pool, lake, river, or ocean if you feel inclined. There’s a few Moon aspects, but the big event today is Mars opposing Neptune. We might experience resistance or disillusionment with the things we want to pursue. Mars is our Will, while Neptune blurs our vision so we can commune with the divine. Don’t give in to feeling lost today, explore your imagination and creativity instead.

Friday,  September 3rd: Moon in Leo doesn’t make any aspects until a sextile with Mercury in the evening. It’s a quiet day astrologically, but the Moon in Leo insists we all have a good time. It’s a heart-filled day, so go out and have an adventure.

Saturday, September 4th: Moon in Leo. Mercury trine Saturn in the evening helps us communicate our truth. Our thinking can also get a reality check. Writers can make progress with editing and organizing their ideas. Whatever comes up, go ahead and talk about it or do some journaling. We are in the darkest phase of the monthly moon cycle so lots of old feelings and issues could be coming up, so we can release them.

Sunday,  September 5th: Moon in Leo is void-of-course from 7:22am to 4:06pm Pacific, when she enters Virgo. We are in the New Moon in Virgo now, so of course today is good for tidying up the house, running errands, and fixing anything broken. Toss stuff out and let things go – someone else can use it. The big aspect today is Venus square Pluto. Relationships could have a crisis come up that will lead to a deeper understanding, or a breaking point. If you’re single, don’t take any risks. Pluto has a dark, unpredictable energy to it, so practice restraint.

Week of August 1st: Harvest festival LAMMAS

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CURRENTLY:
Sun at 11 Leo (in rulership, very strong)
Mercury at 14 Leo
Venus at 15 Virgo (in detriment. No Venus Magick now)
Mars at 3 Virgo
Jupiter RETROGRADE at 29 Aquarius
Saturn RETROGRADE at 10 Aquarius (rulership)
Neptune RETROGRADE at 22 Pisces (rulership)
Pluto RETROGRADE at 25 Capricorn
North Node at 8 Gemini

Mars joined Venus in Virgo last week, and now we’re busy organizing our lives. In Virgo, Mars lets go of his armor and becomes a specialist who makes lists and gets things done. There is amazing focus available to us right now, as well as attention to detail. Virgo wants to be of service by providing a practical way of reaching our goals, without losing track of the details (or ourselves). Avoid nit-picking arguments and being overly critical of your efforts. Mars and Venus in Virgo can be cranky and irritable.

We begin this week with a balsamic, fallow Moon, building towards a New Moon at 16 Leo next Sunday. Leading up to this New Moon, we have an opportunity to release our laziness, procrastination, and fears of the future (i.e. Sun in Leo). And Sunday was a Sabbat, the ancient festival of Lammas! Lammas is the first harvest festival of the year, signifying the height of Summer and the turn towards Fall. Here are the Goddesses and Gods of Lammas:

Demeter/Ceres: Goddess of grains and the harvest, and mother to Persephone, who is about to return to the Underworld for the Fall and Winter. The change in weather is the grief of Demeter being separated from Persephone.

Cronus/Saturn: Greek god of the harvest and the first father of the universe. He is usually portrayed with a sickle in hand, and is considered a harvest God. He had his own holiday, called the Kronia, when the Greeks celebrated the harvest. It was held in the month of Hekatombaion, with equates roughly to July/August.

Hestia/Vesta: Goddess of Fire and the Hearth, she protects the homes of her worshippers.

Lugh: This is the Celtic God that gave Lammas, or Lughnasadh, it’s name! Lugh is the god of light, truth, oaths and the arts. Tradition says that Lugh created the festival of Lughnasadh in honor of his foster mother and earth goddess, Tailtiu.

Renenutet: Egyptian goddess of nourishment, the harvest, and fertility. Also goddess of the soul’s true name. Sometimes considered the wife of Sobek.

Sobek: Egyptian crocodile god, he was also the god of the Nile. In Egypt, the flooding of the Nile is the primary source of essential nutrients and minerals to the fields, so if the Nile does not flood or has a poor flood in a given year, it can cause a bad harvest. Sobek would be important around this time of year, as the people would want to thank him for a good harvest. Also a protective god and a creator god.

Monday, August 2nd: Moon in Gemini makes a couple of tough squares with Jupiter and Mars. There’s also a big Saturn influence over the beginning of the week due to the Sun’s opposition with Saturn in the middle of the night. Today could be kinda tough, with all of us needing to come up with the hard, cold facts. With the Moon in Gemini, we will find the way through this with our quick minds and communications.

Tuesday, August 3rd: Moon in Gemini makes four nice aspects today – taking the edge off Mercury squaring Uranus in the early evening. This aspect can bring sudden changes and nervous energy. Conversations could take unexpected turns, and it might be difficult to reach understanding through the drama. Leave it for tomorrow. On the bright side, we had a revolutionary Venus trine Uranus in the middle of the night which can enhance our imaginations and relationships.

Wednesday, August 4th: Moon in Gemini goes void at 12:38pm, then moves into Cancer around 2:15pm Pacific. Bring on the hugs and food lol. Moon trines Jupiter around the same time, adding to the feelings of indulgence. Sun trine Chiron today brings lovely opportunities for healing to our old wounds, or healing through children.

Thursday, August 5th: Moon in Cancer sextiles Mars and Uranus, but other than that it’s a quiet day. We are in the darkest phase of the monthly moon cycle, preparing for rebirth this Sunday. Lots of old feelings and issues could be coming up, so we can release them. The Cancerian Moon loves a visit to a pool, lake, river, or the ocean.

Friday, August 6th: Moon in Cancer goes void of course at 3:12pm Pacific, and makes a couple nice aspects with Venus and Neptune. There’s an opposition with Pluto in the late afternoon which can bring up control issues. Then we have a biggie – Sun square Uranus – which can bring up that nervous, dramatic behavior. Take a different approach to issues from earlier in the week. Embrace liberation and independence.

Saturday, August 7th: Moon in Leo opposes Saturn in Aquarius today. We get a glimpse into the underlying tensions of 2021, so be present for what occurs today. Pay attention, the Universe is sending you messages. Also, walk carefully around people’s feelings, because Moon opposing Saturn can bring negativity, pessimism or reality checks. The New Moon is tomorrow morning!

Sunday, August 8th: New Moon in Leo at 6:50am Pacific squares Uranus. Today is fabulous for Sun Magick, since this New Moon occurs on a Sunday. It’s a rare event, allowing magicians to fully access the enormous power of the Sun. Just Do It! Today is the rebirth of creativity, romance, and all things artistic. Tarot card of the day is Strength – tame your inner lion with compassion and patience.

This is Why Your Brain Thinks Dating A Secure Person Is Boring

Excellent post by Kathrine Meraki in The Ascent!
Here’s the full article: https://medium.com/the-ascent/this-is-why-your-brain-thinks-dating-a-secure-person-is-boring-ce24487c8fa4

…”when you meet and date a secure person, something just doesn’t feel quite right. Despite the fact they’re comfortable with emotions, don’t play games and don’t keep you guessing…

You still can’t put your finger on this something.

Well, it’s likely you… not them.

Your brain tricking you, don’t fall for it if you want a secure relationship.

Here’s why dating a secure person feels boring………..

You’re Addicted to Drama in Relationships

“Mismatched attachment styles can lead to a great deal of unhappiness … even for people who love each other greatly.” — Amir Levine

When you’ve got two insecurely attached people in a relationship, it creates an addictive pattern.

Let’s say you’ve got an avoidant person and an anxious person, and they’re dating.

  • Anxious person — They want the avoidant person to reassure them and show them they care. Anxiously attached people often have low-self esteem and fear abandonment by their partner.
  • Avoidant person — They don’t like emotional displays because they feel overwhelmed by them. They might begin pulling away from the anxious person and use excuses to avoid them.

In this situation, the anxious person might begin feeling like they’ve done something wrong. Their heart rate goes up; they might feel sweaty and stressed out.

They grab their phone and write a long message to the person. They’re breathing rapidly, and they’re nervous about sending the text.

They just want to fix what they’ve done and make things ‘right’ again. Maybe they try and use sex to do this, I did.

Amir Levine said:

“The trick is not to get hooked on the highs and lows and mistake an activated attachment system for passion or love.”

And if the avoidant person replies or tries to get in touch again, the anxious person feels relieved.

Endorphins rush through their body and brain. The pain in their stomach dissolves, “phew,” they let out a sigh.

It’s like a heroin user getting their fix.

Only this time, the anxious person will walk on eggshells. They’ll stuff their wants and needs down.

It always comes back up again, though, which scares the other person away. And the pattern repeats itself until one person backs away for good.

Dating A Secure Person Feels Like You’re Going Cold Turkey

“You are absolutely worthy of love. You are made of love and you don’t need someone to trigger you into it by their unavailability.” — Damien Bohler

When you’re used to the toxic and high arousal of insecure relationships, secure people won’t give you that addictive hit. Secure people:

  • Don’t play games
  • Know what they want, and they will tell you
  • Won’t push you away if you open up to them
  • Aren’t codependent
  • Aren’t afraid of talking about their feelings with you.

This can be terrifying for an insecurely attached person.

  • When you’ve been used to rollercoaster relationships your whole life, something predictable and stable shocks you.
  • You might believe there’s no connection between you and the secure person because they don’t trigger the rush you’re used to.
  • You may want to run and go back to someone who clings on or pushes away because you think this is passion and love.

It’s not passion. It’s insecure attachment.

Stop! Don’t Jump Ship Yet

“In short, secure attachment is attunement. It reflects a positive-enough environment that creates and engenders basic trust.” — Diane Poole Heller

If you’re dating someone secure, the insecure part of you might feel tempted to hightail it. If you feel there’s no connection there, ask yourself:

Is this predictability activating my insecure attachment?

If you persevere and push through the discomfort, you’ll soon learn if it is insecure attachment or if you genuinely don’t have a connection.

It’s important to remember you’ve been used to ups and downs, and it might feel uncomfortable at first dating someone secure.

You might think your connection is dull and lacking passion. Here’s what a secure relationship looks like:

  • Healthy, secure relationships won’t give you emotional whiplash.
  • There’s a sense of trust and respect for each other.
  • You both are comfortable hanging out with friends separately and doing your own thing.
  • Showing each other love and affection is easy.

Dianne Pool Heller rightly said:

“As we familiarize ourselves more with secure attachment, our relationships become easier and more rewarding — we’re less reactive, more receptive, more available for connection, healthier, and much more likely to bring out the securely attached tendencies in others.”

When your partner models to you what a healthy attachment style is, you tend to follow suit. Even better if you can work on yourself too.

I’m glad I didn’t bail on my partner when I felt overwhelmed, because I wouldn’t have learned what a stable relationship is.

Don’t Ask Him Where Your Relationship is Going Because He’s Telling You the Whole Time

You just don’t like the answer

EXCELLENT post by Niki Marinis:

“If he’s not asking you out often, he’s not interested in a relationship. If he only texts you when he’s bored at work, he’s not interested in a relationship. If you only hear from him in the middle of the night, he’s not interested in anything but sex.

This is also why you don’t only date HIM, you date tons of guys at the same time. Let the best man win, damn it.

What has this guy done to deserve your exclusivity? What has he done to prove to you that you should cut off all your other options?

You pressing him for a verbal answer isn’t going to make him want to be with you if he doesn’t already. It isn’t going to make you look like a confident, sexy woman, either.

A confident sexy woman is paying attention to who is paying attention to her. Period. If it’s not him, then he’s out of the running, or very low on the list.

This is YOUR love life. This is YOUR time and energy. Don’t be so eager to shove it in some random guy’s face. Stop committing to men simply because YOU like him. That doesn’t mean he likes YOU. Don’t choose him and then try to make him want you.

Stop opening the door every five seconds looking out to see who’s coming up the walk way. Be too goddamn busy to care who the fuck is coming to your door. And only open it for those who have the fucking balls to knock on it. Stop opening it and waving them in from the street.

Stop saying words. Walk the fuck away. They’ll notice that.

I was up late last night watching trash TV at the hotel my friend got to bribe me into taking her to LAX. I’m a sucker for down pillows and comforters and rooms I don’t have to clean.

She put on a show called Marrying Millions. Yep, that show exists. And I saw a perfect example of exactly what I’m talking about.

The couple is a 34 yo woman and a 29 yo millionaire entrepreneur/rapper man. They’ve been dating for a year. He got her a diamond bracelet for her birthday, not an engagement ring and she was pissed. She decided she needed to talk to him about this. (DON’T DO IT, I’m screaming at the screen)

She wants to know where this relationship is going. (yawn) She’s 34 and wants to get married and have kids and start a family.

It’s a relationship, not a business transaction. You’re dealing with an actual person with their own feelings and wants and timeline, not an inanimate object you can put anywhere you want.

He said he loves her and wants to spend the rest of his life with her but he’s not ready to get married tomorrow. She doesn’t want to accept that. She wants a guarantee that if she waits he’ll marry her.

THAT’S NOT HOW RELATIONSHIPS WORK

No one can guarantee you shit. That’s the risk you take in love. Do you love him? Then it shouldn’t matter when it happens. And pressuring him isn’t going to make it happen any sooner.

Only it did. He took her to a ring shop the next day.

But here’s the thing: her pressure didn’t make HIM any more ready to marry her. It made him afraid to lose her, sure. So she was going to get a Shut the Fuck Up ring out of fear instead of an inspired, heartfelt proposal.

She said to him, “Are you doing this because you feel like I pressured you?” And THAT’S why you don’t do this kind of shit, because you will NEVER know the truth. You will NEVER KNOW if he asked you because you pressured him or because he really wanted to.

The ONLY way to know if a man truly wants to be with you is if it’s HIS idea, HIS choice, of his own volition and not from any emotional manipulation on your part.

Isn’t that what you want? Someone who wants you because you’re you and not because you have to convince/threaten/pressure them to be with you? That screams desperate, not confident. That screams willing to settle, not you’re the best choice for me.

Work on yourself. Build your confidence, self-respect, self-worth, self-esteem.

The more you love yourself the less you’ll be willing to settle for and/or throw yourself at the next remotely passable guy who shows you basic human kindness that you confuse for romantic interest.

SPOILER: the diamond bracelet was CZs and they’re still not engaged. Shocker.

Yule astrology

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“Druids Cutting the Mistletoe on the Sixth Day of the Moon” by Henri Paul Motte (France, c.1900)

Sun at 5 Capricorn.
Mercury DIRECT at 0 Capricorn.
Mars at 25 Scorpio (strong) and Venus at 9 Aquarius.
Jupiter at 5 Capricorn (in it’s fall, or weakened).
Saturn at 20 Capricorn, Pluto at 22 Capricorn.
Neptune at 16 Pisces.

If you feel like you’re in an intense time of transformation, you are correct. We are being asked as individuals, and a society, to rise up to the next level of our soul consciousness. First, the Winter Solstice last week demanded we release our dead weight. It’s now Winter, and there’s a primal urge to release that which no longer serves us. It will become imperative this month as Saturn and Pluto join in a rare conjunction on January 12th at 23 degrees Capricorn. We’ve been building up to this event for months now, and it has finally arrived! These two powerful planets govern our responsibilities, maturity and evolution. The Sun has passed the Galactic Center, and is reborn into a new year. We have a new beginning within our grasp, and we are being called to operate within the Truth and mystery of our Universe. We are all stardust, and our internal universal codes are being activated on a deep level.

All of this activity is aimed squarely at Capricorns, but all of the earth signs (Taurus and Virgo) will feel the impact. Any planets you have in your chart near 23 degrees Capricorn, Aries, Cancer or Libra are being blasted with powerful energy. You can’t ignore these life aspects now. If you’d like a reading to see how this effects you personally, you can book me here.

If all that wasn’t enough, we had an eclipse on Christmas Day in Capricorn! It was probably an intense day for many people. Eclipses tend to highlight unresolved emotions and stuck areas in our lives. We are now between eclipses, the next one showing up on January 9th in Cancer – just three days before this momentous conjunction.

Right now, Saturday, we are experiencing a Sun and Jupiter conjunction, which expands the opportunities for our soul’s vision. It’s a happy aspect, since both planets are over supplied with optimism, wealth, hope and healing. You can make some progress on important tasks today.

In general, it’s best to take things a day at a time right now, and prioritize your responsibilities. Stay present with your feelings and keep communications clear with loved ones. Take ownership of your life, work hard, and everything will go smoothly. More to come next week 🙂

Loneliness during the Holidays

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Gertrude Abercrombie’s “The Stroll” (1943). Credit Credit Oil on fiberboard, Smithsonian American Art Museum, Gift of the Gertrude Abercrombie Trust

Loneliness is a worthy foe, and with the rise of social media, most of us are suffering from it in some form – especially this time of year. It’s easy to feel isolated in tense family situations or even parties.

Striving for connection along with a healthy dose of self-care will get you through the season.”

So how do we cope? I’m glad I ran across this article today. It has some fantastic actions we can take to combat loneliness, especially this time of year. Along with the list from the article, I would add these things:

Encourage Friendships

Having a social life and human connection is important for us to thrive in our lives. A lot of people are shy about reaching out, or inviting people to do things. Do It!! Same sex friendships are particularly important in my opinion. If you have trouble meeting people then volunteer for something you care about…. and/or get a pet.

Having Pets

Animals are awesome. If you don’t, or can’t,  have one, volunteering at the local shelter is a great way to interact cats and dogs, and to be of service at the same time!

Go to a Gym

It took me awhile to build up to it, but now I go three times a week. Working out keeps my blood moving and my endorphins running. I think more clearly, and I’m able to make better decisions. And I have more energy. Exercise is the best thing for everyone.

Limit Alcohol

I’m personally sober since 2005, but if I wasn’t I would severely limit alcohol and stay away from drugs. In my experience these things end up making loneliness much worse.

Limit Sugar

This time of year is next-to-impossible to eat right, but I SO stay away from eating sugar. It keeps my blood sugar steady throughout that day so there’s less moodiness.

Good Night’s Sleep

I strive to get a good night’s sleep every night – which means eight solid hours in a dark, cool room.

Practice Gratitude

List ten things you’re grateful for when you feel low and it will completely change your thinking and mood.

Walk in Nature

I take a walk in nature everyday with my dog. Looking at trees, grass, and feeling the warmth of the sun brings me lots of joy.

Be Creative

It doesn’t matter if you’re good at it. You’ll probably improve as you go along anyway. I’ve taken multiple creative paths and it feels so good to create something. Write something or pick up and instrument… or a pen!

Be of Service

Get out and be of service to people. Being of service in some way is crucial.

Get a New Job

I know from experience, if you’re unhappy with your job, you HAVE to make a change. Life is too short and we spend too much time there. Anyone can do it. Make a plan, get some training or education, and DO WHAT YOU LOVE.