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New Year’s Tarot Ritual

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Here’s a wonderful ritual you can try tonight, that will give you insight on what will happen to you in 2019! Just pull out the Major Arcana and the Aces, shuffle three times, cut three times, and use your intuition to choose a card!

From Lon Duquette:

“NEW YEARS EVE TAROT
At stroke of Midnight close thine eyes,
And Dream and Wish and Fantasize,
What thou wouldst most sincerely prize
This coming year…Then visualize.
Now pick a Card and thou shalt see
A catalyst that is the Key
To things that will transformeth thee,
If thou wouldst heed its wise decree.
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The Fool
A pure buffoon skips towards his doom,
An abyss of profound uncertainties.
It takes a Fool to seed that womb
With all possible possibilities.
Innocence is the catalyst
The Fool’s decree is clear.
By purity of heart you’ll be transformed
To greet the coming year.
I
The Magician
The Magician is a crafty boy,
He’ll cause your mind to boggle.
He can’t create, he can’t destroy,
But boy! Can that guy juggle.
Dexterity is the catalyst.
The Magician’s decree is clear.
By craft and skill you’ll be transformed
To greet the coming year.
II
The High Priestess
Twixt dark and light a maid serene
Weaves spells of fascination.
Spinning moonlight veils from strands of dream
To conceal your initiation.
The female is the catalyst.
The High Priestess’ decree is clear.
By virginity’s power you’ll be transformed
To greet the coming year.
III
The Empress
The Empress sits before the door
Of a garden in full bloom,
At once a chaste wife, and a whore,
All life within her womb.
Beauty is the catalyst.
The Empress’ decree is clear.
By sweet romance you’ll be transformed
To greet the coming year.
IV
The Emperor
A warrior king the Emperor he,
His empire firm established.
Dictating all within his see,
His enemies killed or banished.
Domination is the catalyst.
The Emperor’s decree is clear.
By Ambition you’ll be transformed
To greet the coming year.
V
The Hierophant
A Holy Man who hears and heeds
The voice of God within him.
Sweet mystery’s Priest who dares to lead
The souls of men and women.
The voice of your soul is the catalyst
The Hierophant’s decree is clear.
Through inspiration you’ll be transformed
To greet the coming year.
VI
The Lovers
Upon the woman man looks with lust,
But the Angel is her true lover.
The man imagines what he must,
But it’s a God who makes love to her.
A marriage is the catalyst
The Lover’s decree is clear.
By a union you’ll be transformed
To greet the coming year.
VII
The Chariot
The Holy Grail, a Victorious Knight,
Serving neither Evil nor Good,
His chariot is the mystic Shrine
Of the cup of Holy Blood.
Victory is the catalyst.
Charioteer’s decree is clear.
In triumph you’ll be transformed
To greet the coming year.
VIII
Strength
To hold the lion’s jaws apart
Great bravado is must.
But stronger still than strength of heart
Is good old-fashioned lust.
Courage is the catalyst.
Strength’s decree is clear.
By passion you’ll be transformed
To greet the coming year.
IX
The Hermit
The Hermit shuns the world of wealth
On mountain top he stands.
He hides himself within himself
But gives his light to Man.
Solitude is the catalyst.
The Hermit’s decree is clear.
In silence you’ll be transformed
To greet the coming year.
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The Wheel of Fortune
Upon the rim fight creatures three
And fortune’s wheel keeps spinning.
Feeling, Thought and Ecstasy
Eternal loss and winning.
Amusement is the catalyst.
Fortune’s decree is clear.
By having fun you’ll be transformed
To greet the coming year.
XI
Justice
Goddess Justice sits with poise
And wields the scales and sword.
Avoid extremes, don’t rock the boat
Balance is its own reward.
Equilibrium’s the catalyst
Justice’s decree is clear.
At gravity’s point you’ll be transformed
To greet the coming year.
XII
The Hanged Man
A martyred man suspended tight,
Crucified or drowned.
Truth mirrors Truth and Light mirrors Light
Even when you’re upside down.
Reversal is the catalyst.
The Hanged Man’s decree is clear.
Through sacrifice you’ll be transformed
To greet the coming year.
XIII
Death
Sometimes the Death card really means death,
Sometimes…. but very seldom.
It brings the end of unbearable stress
When any change is welcome.
A grand finale is the catalyst.
Death’s decree is clear.
Through inevitable change you’ll be transformed
To greet the coming year.
XIV
Temperance
The Angel Temperance evokes a mist
Of steam from magick born,
Of water and fire most subtly mixed
With light the rainbow forms.
Union of opposites is the catalyst.
Temperance’s decree is clear.
By alchemy you’ll be transformed
To greet the coming year.
XV
The Devil
Bad sees bad, good sees good.
Ignorance is the greatest evil.
The ignorant just look at God
And see nothing but the Devil.
Temptation is the catalyst.
The Devil’s decree is clear.
Transmute a vice — you’ll be transformed
To greet the coming year.
XVI
The Tower
The House of God, a Tower high
By God’s own hand is blasted.
But the world would stop, all life would die
If forever had it lasted.
Destruction is the catalyst.
The Tower’s decree is clear.
By war and danger you’ll be transformed
To greet the coming year.
XVII
The Star
Every man and woman is a star
Most glorious and resplendent.
Would each of us know who we are
Self radiant and Independent.
Hope is the catalyst
The Star’s decree is clear.
By your inner light you’ll be transformed
To greet the coming year.
XVIII
The Moon
She’s constant inconstancy,
Her glamour ever changing.
The Moon’s allure is never sure,
Eternal wax and waning.
Illusion is the catalyst.
The Moon’s decree is clear.
By seeing through it you’ll be transformed
To greet the coming year.
IX
The Sun
Lord of all terrestrial life
Your rays we daily cherish.
Source of liberty, source of light
Without whom all would perish.
Self-image is the catalyst.
The Sun’s decree is clear.
By shamelessness you’ll be transformed
To greet the coming year.
XX
Judgement
Apocalypse comes regularly
We may as well learn to face it.
The world breaks down periodically
It’s just easier to replace it.
Resolution is the catalyst.
Judgment’s decree is clear.
Make a decision and you’ll be transformed
To greet the coming year.
XXI
The World
Amidst the stars a dancer whirls
To the music of creation.
Each turn transforms a World fulfilled,
Into a World of expectation.
Patience is the catalyst.
The World’s decree is clear.
With year and time you’ll be transformed
To greet the coming year.
Legend for blank card:
[Card with your own face on it]
XXIII
The Screw-up
The Screw-up stands where he shouldn’t stand,
Says things he shouldn’t say.
Lets opportunities slip through his hands,
And screws up every day.
Incompetence is the catalyst.
The Screw-up’s decree is clear.
By blundering you’ll be transformed
To greet the coming year.
ACE OF WANDS
The Ace of Wands, the Soul’s True Will,
The purpose for your existence.
Discover your Will and you shall kill
The source of all resistance.
Your True Will is the catalyst.
Ace of Wands’ decree is clear.
By self-control you’ll be transformed
To greet the coming year.
ACE OF CUPS
The Ace of Cups is love for sure.
Perhaps a wound from Cupid,
Or Platonic Love that’s for more pure,
But you’ll still act just as stupid.
Love is the catalyst.
Ace of Cups’ decree is clear.
With loving heart you’ll be transformed
To greet the coming year.
ACE OF SWORDS
The Ace of Swords is power invoked,
Authority and discrimination.
A deadly tool when you’re provoked,
Dread source of consternation.
Contention is the catalyst.
Ace of Swords’ decree is clear.
Through altercation you’ll be transformed
To greet the coming year.
ACE OF DISKS
Ace of Disks, the Physical Plane,
It’s what you think is real.
It’s real like rocks, it’s real like pain,
What you see, hear, taste and feel.
Property is the catalyst.
Ace of Disks’ decree is clear.
By money you’ll be transformed
To greet the coming year.

 

Week of November 5th

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Monday, Nov. 5th: Moon in Libra, Sun in Scorpio. We are in the dark of the Moon, preparing for the New Moon in Scorpio this Wednesday. Avoid confrontations, keep your focus on your work and personal life. With Venus retrograding near the Moon, it’s not a good day air grievances. Practice self care.

Tuesday, Nov. 6th:
Moon into Scorpio at 5:02am Pacific
Uranus into Aries at 11am
North Node into Cancer
Avoid social complications, drive slowly and keep a cool head. We are in the orb of the New Moon in Scorpio, and it’s a good time to set some intentions on the part of your life that needs deep healing or rebirth. What is your passion? Also, the North/South nodes (Head and Tail of the Dragon) shift into Cancer and Capricorn for the next two years.

Wednesday, Nov. 7th: New Moon in Scorpio at 8:02am Pacific. REBIRTH. The phoenix rises from the ashes. The corner of your chart where Scorpio resides is experiencing a regeneration today that will culminate in April 2019. Watch for signs.

Thursday, Nov. 8th:
Jupiter into Sagittarius at 4:38am
Moon into Sagittarius at 11:59am
The mood will lighten quite a bit today towards expansiveness and adventure. Excellent day to seek justice and fairness.

Friday, Nov. 9th: Moon in Sagittarius. A light and jovial end to an intense week. Good evening to go out, have fun and try something new.

Saturday, Nov. 10th: Moon in Sagittarius. The mood turns towards responsibilities today as the Moon heads towards Capricorn.

Wearing Black

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My EP from 2005. This picture is from our photo shoot in the Castro in 2002. Chuck Butter and Liz Rose

Black is almost all I wear, honestly. I’ve often wondered why this is the case. Most of my friends wear nothing but black. What’s going on? I like what this article has to say:

“Colors excite our minds in various ways, and how we react to some of them can tell a lot regarding our personalities.

One study states that black is seen as ‘serious’ and ‘reliable,’ which means confident:

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The study states: “Black is Best Most of the Time.”
“Throughout all our survey, black came first or second in most “good” traits (for example confidence, intelligence and sexiness) and barely figured in the “bad” traits (arrogance). It wasn’t a particularly good performer in the “generosity” scale, however, coming second to last after brown, but it’s hard to imagine is being any other way. Try getting your kid to sit on the knee of a black-clad Santa.

Benevolent nocturnal visitations aside, black is the colour to wear when you’re trying to impress, reassure or woo. There’s a certain trustworthiness about it on a person that would make you hand over your life savings and thank them for the privilege.”

More from Maria Hakki:

“Black is generally an indication of “seriousness” and reliability”, so it stands at the top of the list of colors that both sexes find beautiful.

Why?

The answer is simple. Confidence. Almost half of the women and 64% of the men participating in the study think that black emits self-sufficiency. It is the most beautiful, bold, confidence-boosting and calming color that exists.

Those who wear all black are also usually very sensitive, a bit unstable, and want to draw attention on who they are and what they are trying to achieve in life, rather than on their appearance. Another study stemming from color psychology, says that people who love black often have a desire to reclaim their power.

Johnny Cash said: “I wore black because I liked it. I still do, and wearing it still means something to me. It’s still my symbol of rebellion – against a stagnant status quo, against our hypocritical houses of God, against people whose minds are closed to others’ ideas.”

 

 

Alchemy

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A red-faced sun rises above a city; stunted trees stand in the foreground; representing either the culmination of the alchemical Great Work or the star of hope that inspires the alchemist through his tribulation.

 

Release any thought, behavior or idea that you’ve picked up on your journey, so you can uncover the pure gold of the spirit within you.

“THE FOUR ALCHEMICAL RULES.
1. Follow (your) Nature.
It is useless to seek for the sun by the light of a candle.
2. First know; then act.
Real knowledge exists in the triangle composed of seeing, feeling, and understanding.
3. Use no vulgar processes.
Use only one vessel, one fire, one instrument.
The door to success lies in the unity of will and purpose and the proper adaptation of the means to the end. There are many roads leading to the celestial center. He who follows the chosen path may succeed, while he who attempts to walk on many paths will be delayed.
4. Keep the fire constantly burning.
If the molten metals are allowed to cool off before they are transformed into higher ones, they will become hard again, and the whole process will have to be recommenced from the beginning. Use the inextinguishable lamp. Its light will not go out unless it is driven away by force.

THE FIVE THINGS NECESSARY TO OBSERVE IN THE PRACTICE OF ALCHEMY.
1. To recognize the true PRIMA MATERIA.
It is to be found everywhere; but if you do not find it in your own house, you will find it nowhere. It is a living substance that can be discovered only in places inhabited by man. It is the only substance from which the Philosopher’s Stone can be prepared, and without that substance no genuine silver or gold can be made. In thirty pounds of ordinary mercury, there is usually not more than one pound of the true substance; and a hundred pounds of ordinary sulphur usually contain not more than one pound of that which is useful. It can only be found above the earth, but not below it. It is before everybody’s eyes; no one can live without it; everybody uses it; the poor usually possess more of it than the rich; the ignorant esteem it highly, but the learned ones often throw it away. The children play with it in the street, and yet it is invisible. It can be perceived by the sense of feeling, but it cannot be seen with the material eye.
2. Use for the preparation of the PRIMA MATERIA only the rose-colored blood of the Red Lion and the pure white gluten of the Eagle.
Let your Will be strong, but without anger, and your Thoughts be pure from that which infects the lower strata of the earth’s atmosphere. Let the fire of the divine Will penetrate deeply within your soul, and elevate your mind to the highest regions of thought.
3. Obtain the sacred Fire.
It is not of man’s making; it cannot be bought, but it is given for nothing to those who deserve it.
4. Then follow Multiplication and Increase, for which purpose weight and measure are necessary. Weigh all things with the scales of justice, and measure them by the rule of reason.
5. The fifth is the Application, that is to say the Projection upon the metals.
This will be accomplished by nature without artificial aid.”

In the “Pronaos of the Temple of Wisdom” by Franz Hartmann

40 Relationship Red Flags You Should Watch For

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I’d say 90% of my readings are on love life challenges. If we could stay alert and watch for these signs when we meet someone, we could save ourselves a lot of pain down the road. I think this is a pretty good list, and I hope you will find it useful. AND it applies to men AND women!!

Here’s a few of them:

40 Relationship Red Flags You Should Watch For (As Told By 40 Women Who Didn’t)

They aren’t that committed

Don’t chase those who don’t seem as committed as you. If someone genuinely is interested in you or likes you it won’t be like pulling teeth to hang out or see them.

Believe them

If someone tells you they’re an asshole, believe them.

If he promises to break your heart, he will

I was seeing a guy who told me point blank to my face “I will break your heart as hard as I can.” My first reaction was to tell him he was a good person.

He was most certainly not a good person. He was barely capable of being an okay person. I seriously wish I could go back in time… grab Past Me by the hand, and get the hell out of there. It would saved me some major grief.

If he thinks he’s the only

If someone thinks they are unique as in literally the only person who sees the truth about the world and society…or that you are the only one who knows the truth about the universe…or both of you together are the only woke people in the world and everyone else and other institutions are all sheep. That’s a very bad sign.

“I’m damaged. Nobody understands me…”

A huge red flag I’ve learned is when a man (or woman) says ‘I should come with a warning label’… or some equivalent like; I’m damaged, no one understands me, I’m dangerous/edgy, I don’t play well with others… just take them at their word and leave. It’s not worth the emotional effort to get through to them and they will constantly use it as an excuse for bad or abusive behavior.

The Clinger

He insisted on spending every possible moment he could with me. Every single weekend he’d stay at my place… Any time I complained about anything he said or did, I was attacking him and making him feel bad, and he would make everything my fault until I felt bad and apologized for getting mad at him.

I dated him for two years before I realized he wasn’t my responsibility and I finally broke it off with him.

They aren’t there for you

When the person is never there for you. When you always have to be the one to support them and get nothing back. When someone is unable to be independent from their family and explains toxic, abusive or otherwise unacceptable behavior as “it’s just how they are”.

Being inconsistent and indecisive

In both romantic relationships and friendships: inconsistency and complacency. I’ve often tried to make excuses for people who are hot/cold, who don’t keep plans or put any effort into making plans, who don’t say what they mean and mean what they say. That kind of person is fun for a drink every once in a while, but they’re nowhere to be found when you really need them.

Doesn’t text back

If you get busy with work, etc for a long period of time but he doesn’t know, and still doesn’t text you. For example, when I get busy with work and my boyfriend knows, he will back off to let me focus on stuff; if he doesn’t know I’m busy and I don’t respond, he checks in on me to make sure everything is okay. I’ve dated guys who have gone two days without texting me and it wasn’t because they thought I was busy, etc, they just didn’t feel like talking to me.

Always an excuse

He always had an excuse for why he didn’t do what he said he was going to. Always with the excuses. The excuses were barely believable which was pretty insulting too.

Read the rest of them here

 

Full Moon in Taurus

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Glastonbury Tor, England Sept. 27, 2015

Tuesday, October 23rd, 2018  – Sun enters Scorpio at 4:22am Pacific.
Wednesday, Oct. 24 – Moon enters Taurus at 7:33am, Full Moon at 9:45am.

This could be a tense day, so keep a low profile. Taurus is a fruitful, productive, loving sign, but can be cautious and stubborn. And now, Taurus’s ruler Venus, is currently walking backwards (retrograding) through Scorpio. Venus is VERY uncomfortable in this sign because people stop playing nice and start getting “real”. Scorpio values authenticity, not manners or etiquette, and this throws Venus out of her element. Also, Venus in Scorpio causes the ghosts of past lovers to rise up in our lives, which can be stressful and confusing.

There are many influences on this Full Moon. We have the Moon passing over Uranus in Taurus, and landing nearby. This brings a big shake up to the tense undercurrent. Uranus clears away agreements that have become stagnant, and creates huge opportunities for the start of a new phase.

Scorpio is regeneration – the snake shedding it’s skin.
Taurus is devotion
Uranus is change

On the other side of the sky, the Sun and Venus are sitting together in Scorpio; connecting our passion with our vision. The Sun, our soul, is confronting an issue in our lives that has held us back. It could be a limiting idea within us, a feeling of burn out with our work, or a friendship we’ve outgrown.

We are being asked to be brave, show courage, and accept that we have evolved to a new point in our lives. We cannot go backwards anymore, we must step into a new, unknown world and trust a universal plan. Scorpio asks that our “outsides” match our “insides”, and we live our lives in a new authenticity that reflects our inner resolve and maturity.

Venus Retrograde

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“The Guardian”, by Chie Yoshii.

Venus Retrograde:
October 5th at 12:04pm Pacific. 10° Scorpio. Venus has a regular cycle, and always retrogrades  for 40 days.

Women in general will be effected; becoming more empowered and less tolerant of unauthentic behavior. Scorpio symbolizes the dark goddess, who appears in the Fall to face her fears. She seeks integrity and confronts injustice. This is SO visible in the US right now, with the wave of women coming forward and speaking up with their personal stories of sexual abuse.

Scorpio wants the TRUTH, and has no fear of speaking it. Scorpio is also the sign of passion, commitment, transformation, sex and death. Where Scorpio appears in our charts is where we go deep… where our passion lives.

Venus, as a planet, goddess and ideal, is much much lighter than this, so she is uncomfortable in Scorpio. She wants harmony, tea parties and courtly love. In Scorpio she travels to the underground of our personal psychologies. She has no choice but to face her fears, and embrace the reality that her love is based on. Expect fantasies to vanish, and to know the truth. If a relationship isn’t resting on a solid foundation, it might not survive the retrograde. If you are in denial or in a power struggle with your partner, it will become obvious during this time. Since Scorpio is ruled by Mars (a male sign), you will have new courage to speak your truth. The possibility for deep understanding and healing is also present.

Venus retrograde also brings old flames back into our lives. Scorpio is the sign of the dead, and the ghosts of our pasts can resurrect themselves. We might need to redo creative projects in the areas of romance, art, beauty, and music. This isn’t the time to start any new relationships, and it’s good to watch out for obsession. In Scorpio, Venus craves intimacy, but only in situations based on trust.

Venus will go direct (forward) on November 15th at 25° Libra.

from Austin Coppock:

“In addition Venus will oppose Uranus three times. Not only is the opposition a stronger aspect than the square, but Uranus is currently in a Venus-ruled sign (Taurus), and thus is much more responsive to her movements and condition.
Uranus-Venus combinations disrupt relationship structures and social relations. The two provide exactly the right spark to catalyze break ups and divorces. Even for those unions which are stronger, Uranus’ disruptive, innovative, rebellious power pushes relational rearrangements. Break ups and renegotiations are something we would expect from any Venus retrograde, but Uranus doubles down on these significations.
On the positive side, Venus and Uranus fuel artistic innovation and aesthetic experimentation, facilitate greater freedom of feeling and emotional expression. Venus will also help push through the disruptions and innovations which Uranus has planned in Taurus.”