Week of January 18th

Ben Franklin, born Jan 17, 1706. Painting by David Martin (Edinburgh Scottish painter-1767)

Sun at 28 Capricorn
Mercury at 13 Aquarius
Venus at 9 Capricorn
Mars at 4 Taurus
Jupiter at 6 Aquarius
Saturn at 3 Aquarius (rulership)
Neptune at 18 Pisces (rulership, strong)
Pluto at 24 Capricorn
North Node at 18 Gemini

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The Moon is waxing and growing bigger each day. We had a fresh start last Wednesday with the New Moon in Capricorn, which represents ambition, discipline and commitment. There’s a lot of intensity right now, since this New Moon saw the Sun (our Soul’s Light) and Moon (emotions) cross the dark lord Pluto (reformation) last week. This is the area of the sky that influenced the massive changes in 2020. When the Sun crosses this point, it puts our souls in alignment with the upheaval from last year, so we can find our forward path.

The Sun goes into Aquarius this Tuesday, and conjuncts Saturn right away. This brings a serious tone to the month ahead. This week we explore prioritizing ourselves before other people. Commit to what works best for you.

Uranus (new, different approaches) is still stationary Direct at 6 Taurus (resources, money), which means surprises and shocking events can arise suddenly. With Uranus we step outside of the normal, and outside of ourselves, to get a bigger view of the world. Uranus helps us individuate, and to express our genius. Uranus in Taurus shakes up our values, and helps us to release what doesn’t work for us anymore. It can also shake up our resources, causing us to rethink how we make money. Maybe a new career is in order.

Mars at 4 Taurus is creeping towards a conjunction with Uranus on Wednesday’s Inauguration Day. These two powerhouses, joined together, increases the potential for rebellion and violence. I’m glad measures have been taken to protect people. If you have any planets near 6 degrees Taurus, Leo, Scorpio or Aquarius, they will be massively activated this week. I can look this up for you with an astrology reading, which you can book here.

Jupiter at 6 Aquarius will be in a perfect square to Uranus at 6 Taurus for several weeks. We shake up our value system and elevate our social circle at the same time. We could all experience higher self esteem from this aspect, which opens us to self love. Taurus is the sign of Love. The last time this happened was June 2010, so you can get an idea of how this aspect will effect you if you look back to that time.

Monday, January 18th: Moon in Aries, and Sun in the last degrees of Capricorn. We are doing a deeper integration of the huge changes from last year. We have achieved a new grounding, and the path forward is (hopefully) clearer. We walk forward with a new structure and begin to envision a new life plan. Watch out for head strong behavior and forcing solutions. Courageous, empowered day.

Tuesday, January 19th: Moon in Aries and Sun enters Aquarius! Fresh energy today and a feeling of rebirth. Saturn near the Sun asks us to work hard and commit to our plans. Moon in Aries means the people around us won’t be patient, or listen well, so do you. Drive cautiously.

Wednesday, January 20th: Moon void-of-course in Aries, then into Taurus at 10:56am Pacific. Sun at 0 Aquarius. We start a new zodiacal season, and the focus turns towards the future and our social circles. Mars in exact conjunction with Uranus at 6 Taurus. Stay home if you can because this is a volatile day. This aspect often brings violence or sudden uprisings. The best use of this energy is setting boundaries where needed.

Thursday, January 21st: Moon in Taurus. Things slow waaaay down and we indulge in sensual delights. We become aware of our personal levels of self esteem and self love. Do you love yourself? Truly? Treating yourself like a precious jewel will make you strong. Moon conjuncts Mars and Uranus, connecting us emotionally to yesterday’s events.

Friday, January 22nd: Moon in Taurus, then void at 1:28pm Pacific. No big moves, purchases or agreements after 1:28pm. Be cautious and practice restraint. Otherwise a slow, quiet day. Any activity that awakens the five senses is highlighted. We look at where we need to be and what we need to do with our time. Where’s the best place for you right now, and who is the best company?

Saturday, January 23rd: Moon in Gemini all day. Chatty and social. Mars squares Jupiter asking us to turn a corner regarding our courage, identity, truth or boundaries. Moon trines Saturn, then Jupiter, bringing communication or insight to your future. Sun conjunct Saturn in Aquarius can bring responsibility and work to our evening.

Sunday, January 24th: Moon in Gemini. Sun conjunct Saturn is still in effect so there might be some heaviness. Try to stay chatty, with a day full of socializing and online games.

Character Matters

“Mules humbly pulled the funeral caisson of one of our country greatest citizens, the Reverend Martin Luther King, Jr. “Judge a man by his character and not by the color of his skin!” Martin Luther King, Jr. (January 15, 1929 – April 4, 1968) was an American Baptist minister, activist, humanitarian, and leader in the African-American Civil Rights Movement. He is best known for his role in the advancement of civil rights using nonviolent civil disobedience based on his Christian beliefs. King also helped to organize the 1963 March on Washington, where he delivered his famous “I Have a Dream” speech. On October 14, 1964, King won the Nobel Peace Prize for combating racial inequality through nonviolent resistance.
King was posthumously awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom and the Congressional Gold Medal. Martin Luther King Jr. Day was established as a holiday in numerous cities and states beginning in 1971; the holiday was enacted at the federal level by legislation signed by President Ronald Reagan in 1986. Hundreds of streets in the U.S. have been renamed in his honor, and a county in Washington State was also rededicated for him. The Martin Luther King Jr. Memorial on the National Mall in Washington, D.C., was dedicated in 2011. LET US SOLEMNLY REMEMBER HIS GENEROUS CONTRIBUTIONS ON THIS VERY SPECIAL DAY! 

Week of January 11th: New Moon in Capricorn

Sun at 21 Capricorn
Mercury at 5 Aquarius
Venus at 3 Capricorn
Mars at 2 Taurus
Jupiter at 5 Aquarius
Saturn at 2 Aquarius (rulership)
Neptune at 18 Pisces (rulership, strong)
Pluto at 24 Capricorn
North Node at 18 Gemini

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This is not a week to take risks. The Sun is currently in the Capricorn-part of the heavens called “the Covid point”. It’s where the momentous conjunctions happened last year that heralded the pandemic. This will be an intense week with the Sun crossing Pluto, and consequently squaring Mars and Uranus. This means situations and information will arise that underline our evolution, and where to place our focus. A New Moon in Capricorn occurs this Wednesday too!

Uranus is standing still over our heads all week, preparing to go Direct in Taurus on Thursday. On top of that, Uranus will be making several trines and conjunctions with all the planets at the end of Capricorn and beginning of Aquarius. There will be many flashes of insight and messages from the Universe this week, so try to be well rested and observant. Aquarius (ruled by Uranus) is a huge part of the astrological fabric of 2021, and with the Moon, Saturn and Jupiter there, it’s a potent time for signals.

Monday, January 11th: Moon in Capricorn, and Mercury conjunct Jupiter in the early morning. This gives a great vibe to the beginning of our week. Our minds are expanded with new ideas, and conversations lead to better understanding between people. All things are possible today, so don’t hesitate to take action on anything. Clearing the air and speaking your truth should go very well.

Tuesday, January 12th: Moon in Capricorn, and Mercury squares Uranus in Taurus. We’re in the realm of the New Moon, so watch for flashes of insight. There could be sudden surprises today, so be open to quick changes – especially around work, health and home. Capricorn brings a serious, focused and ambitious mood. Ground yourself through working hard, especially on things you’ve been avoiding. Focus on the goal.

Wednesday, January 13th: New Moon in Capricorn, going into Aquarius at 8:44am. Both of these signs are ruled by Saturn, so a serious mood colors the day. Whatever you begin today will have a VERY solid start. Conversely, new projects could be hard to get off the ground. There’s a flurry of aspects today too – eight total! So pay attention to any revelations you receive from the Universe.

Thursday, January 14th: Moon void-of-course ALL DAY in Aquarius. Good to lay low and pursue plans already set in motion. Uranus direct in Taurus at 12:36am brings electricity and a strong urge for independence to the energy of the New Moon. Avoid big purchases or spontaneous actions. People will be friendly but slightly detached, so it’s a good day for communications of all kinds. Focus on what your mind tells you rather than your heart and let your creative genius out to play.

Friday, January 15th: Moon is sill void-of-course in Aquarius, and enters Pisces at 2:17pm. If you need to have meetings or work through agreements, do it in the afternoon – although defining things could be difficult. The Pisces Moon lets us slow down, and focuses us on nurturing our souls. Music, creativity and solitude are the best practices today.

Saturday, January 16th: Moon in Pisces, with harmonious sextiles to Mars, Uranus and Venus. Yesterday’s mood for solitude and communing with the divine continues. Creative genius is easily accessible.

Sunday, January 17th: Moon in Pisces conjuncts Neptune. Boundaries are hard to define and it’s easy to feel a little lost as the path forward disappears under our feet. Also, Jupiter square Uranus is exact, and Mars conjuncts Uranus tomorrow, Jan 20th. This is an especially powerful pair of squares, with potential for violence. Stay home, and swim around your intuitions, ideas and creativity. If you are near a body of water, today is good for a visit.

Week of January 4th

CURRENTLY: Dark of the Moon this week!
Sun at 15 Capricorn
Mercury at 24 Capricorn
Venus at 25 Sagittarius
Mars at 28 Aries (Rulership)
Jupiter at 3 Aquarius
Saturn at 1 Aquarius (rulership)
Neptune at 18 Pisces (rulership, strong)
Pluto at 24 Capricorn
North Node at 18 Gemini

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We are in the dark of the Moon this week, so just take it easy and rest. The Moon is waning until next Monday, December 14th, when we have a New Moon Solar eclipse at 23 Sagittarius.

Happy New Year! January is the month of the ancient Roman god Janus, who rules doorways, and looks forwards and backwards at the same time. He symbolizes transitions, and the portal between the past and the future.

This god is appropriate for all of 2021, as we begin the tussles between Saturn in Aquarius and Uranus in Taurus. These squares between these two planets will manifest on Earth as the push and pull between old world ideologies, and the advancements of the technological age.

It’s very close to being mutual reception, which is when two planets are in each others’ ruling signs. Saturn (responsibility and discipline) has a lot in common with Taurus (practicality and slow growth). Uranus (revolution) is the ruler of Aquarius (liberation, revelation). This year, we will be wanting to push forward past old ideas to a new paradigm, but the progress will be slow. Patience is the key.

Last year, in 2020, our world and personal lives were torn to pieces. Pluto, the god of literal and metaphoric death, presided over last year. In 2021, we will begin to lay the foundation for a new way forward, but the key is deciding on personal direction. Neptune in Pisces is also squaring the North Node of the Moon in Gemini all year, asking us to access intuition for finding this new path. You can’t think your way into it, you have to use your gut instincts. This is very important this year.

Monday, January 4th: Moon VOC in Virgo starting in the afternoon. Try and avoid spending all of your $600 bonus today. It is EXCELLENT to start a new year diet and exercise routine though! The big news is Mercury conjunct Pluto around 5pm Pacific. Avoid power plays and doom scrolling on social media. Issues of control might come up in communication, but there’s possibilies for deep understanding and clearing of the air. Don’t go to extremes in your thinking this week; healing is available.

Tuesday, January 5th: Moon in Libra brings a need for balance, fairness and justice. If an issue in your life feels out of your control or unjust, gently take action today. Libra wants you to use tact, and maneuver towards win-win situations. Talk to your boss, or hammer out agreements, today and tomorrow.

Wednesday, January 6th: Moon in Libra enters the 4th quarter, and we are in a balsamic Moon until next Wednesday. You have permission to rest and watch movies. Mars enters Taurus at 2:27pm Pacific, which means the massive restructure of our identities from Mars in Aries last year has completed it’s first phase. Unfortunately, this could bring battles over territories.

Thursday, January 7th: Moon in Scorpio. The mood of the day could be frustrating, because the Moon will be squaring most of the outer planets, then opposing Uranus at 12:16pm Pacific. Don’t push people to meet your needs, instead nurture yourself. Stay in your own front yard.

Friday, January 8th: Moon in Scorpio, void at 6pm Pacific. Lots of aspects and changes today so go with the flow. Mercury goes into Aquarius and our minds become electrified by possibilities, ideas and expanding consciousness. Venus sullenly enters Capricorn and romance dies. We’re all about committment now, and long-lasting partnerships. Are the fundamentals there for this to really work in the long term? Expect this question to come up a lot in the next few weeks.

Saturday, January 9th: Moon in Sagittarius. Have outside adventures and put energy towards your goals! Venus trines Mars, allowing achievable resolutions between partners. You can get some foundational stuff decided in relationships today. Get it done by early evening though, because Mercury conjunct the hard eye of Saturn in the evening could bring stubborness and pessimism.

Sunday, January 10th: Moon in Sagittarius, then at 10:30am void ALL DAY!! Be creative, rest and have fun. No big aspects and no ground under our feet today, so no big decisions or conversations.

Astrology of 2021

We have made it through some of the most challenging planetary aspects in recent memory. 2020 was overseen by Pluto, the great reformer, and Saturn, the karmic planet of limitation – both super charged by Mars and expanded by Jupiter. We’ve had to face our fears about injustice, powerlessness, loss, isolation and scarcity. None of us will ever be the same.

A new world opens up to us in 2021. There are challenges ahead, but a different tone. Saturn in Aquarius is a MUCH lighter transit, however it does point to the continuation of the pandemic and limitations on socializing. The planetary influence of 2021 will be Saturn in Aquarius squaring Uranus in Taurus, which presents an interesting duality between progress and caution.

It’s close to being a mutual reception, when two planets are in each others’ ruling signs. Saturn (responsibility and discipline) has a lot in common with Taurus (practicality and slow growth). Uranus (revolution) is the ruler of Aquarius (liberation, revelation). In the coming year, we begin to rebuild, but in a new way. Aquarius demands equal rights and the liberation and unification of humanity, but with Saturn in charge the changes will come slowly. The best way to walk through this year is to be patient, stay in the present moment, and simplify your life.

Aquarius, the revolutionary youth, will have to make peace with the old guard to bring everyone into the future. The old guard is on notice though, and is no longer in charge. The last time Jupiter was in Aquarius was in 2009, and Saturn’s last transit of Aquarius was in 1992. Look back to these years to know what 2021 might have in store for you.

With the Moon’s nodes (future, destiny) touring through Gemini and Sagittarius, the collective consciousness is changing what we believe and the way we think and write laws. Neptune in Pisces, squaring these nodes all year, insists we use intuition and visionary insight to find the path forward.

Thanks to those of you who followed my reports this year! I’m wishing you good luck and clarity in 2021 🙂

Week of December 28th: Full Moon in Cancer

Sun at 8 Capricorn
Mercury at 14 Capricorn
Venus at 17 Sagittarius
Mars at 26 Aries (Rulership)
Jupiter at 2 Aquarius
Saturn at 1 Aquarius (rulership)
Neptune at 18 Pisces (rulership, strong)
Pluto at 24 Capricorn
North Node at 19 Gemini

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We’ve made it to the last week of 2020. Sadly, many hundreds of thousands of people did not survive the horrific pandemic we faced this year. I still can’t fully comprehend the huge losses we’ve suffered, and the deep grief felt by so many families. It’s really been a year like no other in our living history.

Thank goodness we have a quiet week with a gentle Full Moon in Cancer. This Full Moon will deliver the final information we need to integrate the changes of 2020. Look for emotional resolutions to the year. We are leaving behind 2020 with an understanding of the changes we’ve been through, and a long view of all we have learned about ourselves. We have a new, inner resolve that we will express in the coming month.

Monday, December 28th: Moon in Gemini. Mercury (Gemini’s ruler) gets bogged down in Capricorn and can’t think or move quickly with the Seagoat’s pessimism and caution. The only way to walk through Mercury here, is to think strategically, and negotiate when you’re in a good position. Last night, we had the Sun trining Uranus, which brings the desire for freedom. Look for ways you can liberate yourself today.

Tuesday, December 29th: Full Moon in Cancer at 7:28pm Pacific. Avoid difficult conversations today because sensitivities are high. Be gentle… Easy Does It. Creativity, nostalgia, food, and emotional release are good uses of this energy.

Wednesday, December 30th: Moon in Cancer. It’s an emotional week, and sensitivity and dreaminess remain at the forefront of our experience. We are integrating the big changes this year, and preparing for 2021. Still not a great day for serious discussions or social complications. Venus squares Neptune in the early morning, bringing some desire for escapism. Engage in pleasure and express yourself through art. A good week for creativity; so paint, write, film and play.

Thursday, December 31st: Moon into Leo at 11:00am Pacific. The mood changes and becomes more upbeat. We are feisty and ready to celebrate New Year’s Eve. Great evening to see first rate performances on television. With Saturn and Jupiter opposite the Moon, the pandemic is still in full force, so celebrate from home. Venus conjunct the South Node helps us let go of an old story.

Friday, January 1st: Moon in Leo. New Year’s Day! Moon opposite Pluto in the morning, then Saturn and Jupiter in the afternoon. This could bring some heaviness and fears that there won’t be real change, but the Moon in Leo encourages us to have heart. Try to be around authentic people.

Saturday, January 2nd: Moon in Leo, and goes void at 2:28pm. A day to spend with animals and/or making music. No big decisions or proclamations when the Moon is void, just go with the flow.

Sunday, January 3rd: Moon in Virgo. Now we clean up after the New Year’s/Leo Moon party and get organized. We turned a spiritual corner last week, now we want to put things in motion, in alignment with our integrity.

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Saturn-Jupiter: The Great Conjunction

We’ve entered a new era. Saturn entered the sign of Aquarius last Thursday, which means a huge shift (and fresh start) for the next couple of years. The last conjunction of Jupiter and Saturn in Aquarius was January 7, 1405. That was 615 years ago. 1405 was one of the world’s great beginnings, births, and rebirths.This year though, is more significant due to the Great Conjunction between Saturn and Jupiter at 0° Aquarius – which is happening right now. Jupiter greatly magnifies Saturn, and Aquarius rules The Future and humanity. This year, we will hopefully be shown the way forward after the upheaval, destruction and death in 2020. We will get a new “plan”, and start to rebuild our lives in 2021. This conjunction means we’ve officially turned a corner.

There’s so much to this aspect, so let’s take it piece by piece:

1, First off, 0° of ANY sign represents it’s strongest expression, and this conjunction is at 0° Aquarius; so Aquarian ideals are at the forefront. These are liberation, democracy, invention, humanity, the public, independence, the future, genius, revolution and community groups.
Aquarius is like an eccentric pilanthropist that wants to better mankind.
…like the visions of a shaman that show how to lead the people.
It’s a sudden bolt of revelation out of nowhere.
It is definitely people protesting in the streets.

2. A Jupiter-Saturn conjunction occurs once every 20 years, so the last time this happened was the year 2000. We are at the beginning of a new cycle!

3. Jupiter-Saturn conjunctions occur every 20 years, BUT they belong to 200 year elemental cycles. Since 1802, all of these conjunction have occurred in Earth signs, and the one tonight is occuring in an Air sign (Aquarius), starting off another 200 year cycle in Air signs! We will see huge technological advances, hopefully less wars, more collaboration, and increases in global trade, over the next 200 years. A boost will be evident in the fields of information technology, science, outer space and sociology. The energy will shift from Earth (consumerism, material values, hierarchies) 

4. The thing about this conjunction too, is that these two planets are seen as opposites. Saturn: responsibility, karma, pessimism, reality, concentration, discipline, maturity, and hard work.
Jupiter: joy, wealth, good luck, idealism, expansion, optimism, the benevolent King.
How do we make sense of these two powerful planets joining together? They will influence each other:
Jupiter will expand laws, boundaries,

Week of December 21st: Winter Solstice

“Druids Cutting the Mistletoe on the Sixth Day of the Moon” by Henri Paul Motte (France, c.1900)

Sun at 0 Capricorn
Mercury at 0 Capricorn
Venus at 5 Sagittarius
Mars at 23 Aries (Rulership)
Jupiter at 0 Aquarius
Saturn at 0 Aquarius (rulership)
Neptune at 18 Pisces (rulership, strong)
Pluto at 23 Capricorn
North Node at 19 Gemini

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Tonight, Sunday, December 20th, 2020 is Winter Solstice eve. It is the longest night of the year. Tomorrow morning at dawn, 7:21am Pacific, the Sun rises on the new year. This is because the days grow longer from this point on until the climax at the longest day on June 21st, 2021. Important to think about what you’d like to “grow” in the New Year. Christmas tree lights symbolize finding hope in times of darkness.

That’s the main undercurrent of what’s happening right now: REBIRTH. There’s also the Great Conjunction between Saturn and Jupiter at 0 Aquarius, which is a huge event. lt underlines this rebirth of the Sun. Saturn has been in Capricorn, it’s natural home, for the last 2.5 years, exposing materialism, lack of integrity, and the misuse of power. With Saturn’s entrance into Aquarius, our society will be completely transformed, perhaps leaning towards the promised utopia of Aquarius.

We’re already experiencing some of this shift in the form of lockdowns – Saturn limiting our social (Aquarius) connections. Also, working remotely (Saturn) online (Aquarius). 

There’s also aspects happening that are resetting us for 2021:

  1. Mercury conjunct the Sun (combust) at 0 Capricorn.
  2. Pluto at 23 Capricorn exactly square Mars (which is conjunct Eris at 23 Aries).
  3. Week starts with the Moon at 23 Pisces.
  4. The Saturn/Jupiter conjunction enters a square to Uranus in Taurus, and it will be in effect through 2022. 

These squares between these specific planets can bring fighting and conflict, so be cautious in the world.

Monday, December 21st: Moon void in Pisces, into Aries at 2:32pm Pacific. WINTER SOLSTICE. Sun enters Capricorn at 2am Pacific. This morning’s sunrise sees the rebirth of the Sun. This is one of the most magical days of the year. Immerse yourself in the wonderful, fresh energies alive in the air today. The Sky King (Jupiter) spreads his wings (Aquarius) and escapes the Earth (Capricorn). All of the cooped-up, earthbound energy of the last two years is shaken off, and we have a new path before us of freedom.

Tuesday, December 22nd: Moon in Aries adds to the feeling of rebirth! Put plans into action, but be aware people won’t be all that patient, or listen well. Drive cautiously.

Wednesday, December 23rd: Moon in Aries, but void-of-course at 2:51pm Pacific. Try to avoid signing anything or having important conversations during a void Moon. This is a volatile day, since the Moon conjuncts Mars and Black Moon Lilith, and Mars square Pluto is exact. Tests might come up around your identity. The best use of this energy is setting boundaries where needed, but watch out for irritation and anger. Today begins the final squares of Mars/Eris to Pluto, Saturn and Jupiter. Tempers will be testy through February 2021. Be cautious driving.

Thursday, December 24th: Christmas Eve. Moon in Taurus. Things slow waaaay down today and we indulge in sensual delights. Although you may be stuck at home and away from your families this year, get yourself an excellent dinner. Taurus loves food.

Friday, December 25th: Christmas Day. Moon in Taurus. Slow, quiet day. Any activity that awakens the five senses is highlighted. Get outside today and appreciate nature.

Saturday, December 26th: Moon void-of-course at the end of Taurus all day, and then into Gemini at 3:33pm Pacific. Energy picks up as the Moon trines the lovely Saturn/Jupiter conjunction in Aquarius, so expect some communication or insight into your future path.

Sunday, December 27th: Moon in Gemini. Very chatty day full of socializing and online purchases. We are two days from a Full Moon in Cancer, so walk cautiously around people’s feelings.

Alanon: December 17th

“Nurturing Ourselves”

“Many of us have been so deprived of nurturing that we think it’s silly or self-indulgent. Nurturing is neither silly nor self-indulgent; it’s how we show love for ourselves. That’s what we’re striving for – a loving relationship with ourselves that works, so we can have loving relationships with others that work.

When we hurt, we ask ourselves what we need to help us feel better. When we feel alone, we reach out to someone safe. Without feeling that we are a burden, we allow that person to be there for us. We rest when we’re tired; eat when we’re hungry; have fun or relax when our spirits need a lift. Nurturing means giving ourselves gifts – a trip to the beauty salon or barbershop, a massage, a book, a new jacket, or a new suit or dress. It means a long, hot bath to forget about our problems and the world for a few moments when that would feel good.

We learn to be gentle with ourselves and to open up to the nurturing that others have to offer us. As part of nurturing ourselves, we allow ourselves to give and receive positive touch – touch that feels appropriate to us, touch that is safe. We reject touch that doesn’t feel good or safe and is not positive. We learn to give ourselves what we need in a gentle, loving, compassionate way. We do this with the understanding it will not make us lazy, spoiled, self centered, or narcissistic. Nurtured people are effective in their work and in their relationships.

We will learn to feel loved by ourselves so much that we can truly love others and let them love us. Today, I will nurture myself. I will also be open to the nurturing that I can give to others and receive from them.”

from “The Language of Letting Go”