Difficult People

Difficult People

Few things can make us feel crazier than expecting something from someone who has nothing to give. Few things can frustrate us more than trying to make a person someone he or she isn’t; we feel crazy when we try to pretend that person is someone he or she is not. We may have spent years negotiating with reality concerning particular people from our past and our present. We may have spent years trying to get someone to love us in a certain way, when that person cannot or will not.

It is time to let it go. It is time to let him or her go. That doesn’t mean we can’t love that person anymore. It means that we will feel the immense relief that comes when we stop denying reality and begin accepting. We release that person to be who he or she actually is. We stop trying to make that person be someone he or she is not. We deal with our feelings and walk away from the destructive system.

We learn to love and care differently in a way that takes reality into account.

We enter into a relationship with that person on new terms – taking our needs and ourselves into account. If a person is addicted to alcohol, other drugs, misery, or other people, we let go of his or her addiction; we take our hands off it. We give his or her life back. And we, in the process, are given our life and freedom in return.

We stop letting what we are not getting from that person control us. We take responsibility for our life. We go ahead with the process of loving and taking care of ourselves.

We decide how we want to interact with that person, taking reality and our own best interests into account. We get angry, we feel hurt, but we land in a place of forgiveness. We set him or her free, and we become set free from bondage.

This is the heart of detaching in love.

Today, I will work at detaching in love from troublesome people in my life. I will strive to accept reality in my relationships. I will give myself permission to take care of myself in my relationships, with emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual freedom for both people as my goal.

Putting our life on hold

Putting Our Life on Hold

We cannot afford to put our needs on hold, waiting for another person to fulfill us, make our life better, or come around and be who and what we want that person to be. That will create resentment, hostility, an unhealthy dependency, and a mess to deal with later on.

If we have decided we want a particular relationship or want to wait about making a decision in a particular relationship, then we must go on with our own life in the interim.

That can be hard. It can feel natural to put our life on hold. That is when we get caught up in the codependent beliefs: That person can make me happy… I need that particular person to do a particular thing in order to be happy….

That’s a circumstance that can hook our low self-esteem, our self-doubt, and our tendency to neglect ourselves.

We can get into this situation in a number of ways. We can do this waiting for a letter, waiting for a job, waiting for a person, waiting for an event.

We do not have to put our life on hold. There will be repercussions from doing this. Go on with your life. Take life a day at a time.

What is something I could be doing now to take care of myself, make myself feel better, get my needs met in an appropriate, healthy way?

How can I own my power to take care of myself, despite what the other person is or isn’t doing?

What will happen if I break the system and begin taking care of myself?

Sometimes, we get the answer we want immediately. Sometimes, we wait for a while. Sometimes, things don’t work out exactly the way we hoped. But they always work out for good, and often better than we expected.

And in the meantime, we have manifested love for ourselves by living our own life and taking the control away from others. That always comes back to us tenfold, because when we actually manifest love for ourselves, we give our Higher Power, other people, and the Universe permission to send us the love we want and need. Stopping living our life to make a thing happen doesn’t work. All it does is make us miserable, because we have stopped living our life.

Today, I will force myself, if necessary, to live my own life. I will act in my own best interest, in a way that reflects self-love. If I have given power or control of my life to someone other than myself, and someone besides a Power greater than myself, I will take it back. I will begin acting in my own best interests, even if it feels awkward to do that.

From the “Language of Letting Go”

Hermeticism: the nexus between science, philosophy and spirit

The spaced-out scientist

Last week, I summarized the history of alchemy in Europe, the Middle East, India and China. Alchemy is tradition spanning millennia that influenced the development of modern chemistry, medicine, philosophy and psychology. Western alchemy blends Greek, Egyptian, Islamic and Jewish traditions, and is a branch of Hermetic philosophy, which is based on the works of Hermes Trismegistus, meaning “Thrice-Great” Hermes.

It is debated why Hermes Trismegistus was called “Thrice-Great” but it is thought that it is because he knows three parts of the wisdom of the universe: alchemy (the operation of the sun), astrology (the operation of the stars) and theurgy (the operation of the gods). Hermes credited the creation of astrology to Zoroaster, founder of the Zoroastrian religion and Middle-Eastern philosopher living sometime in the second half of the 2nd millennium BC.

Hermes Trismegistus is considered the founder of science, religion, mathematics, geometry, alchemy, philosophy, medicine and magic. He…

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to find love

To a young woman seeking the right young man:

So many believe that love is a romance; that it is something into which you fall, suddenly, effortlessly.

Let me tell you what is true love.

Two people live together, care for each other, weather the storms together

—and one day they discover they cannot live without one another.

That is love.

Don’t fall in love. Create love.

  • Rabbi Tzvi Freeman

Art Creation

“I’ve seen women insist on cleaning everything in the house before they could sit down to write… and you know it’s a funny thing about housecleaning… it never comes to an end. The perfect way to stop a woman. A woman must be careful to not allow over-responsibility (or over-respectability) to steal her necessary creative rests, riffs, and raptures. She simply must put her foot down and say no to half of what she believes she “should” be doing. Art is not meant to be created in stolen moments only.”

Clarissa Pinkola Estés

Anders Zorn – Baking the Bread, 1889.

Trust yourself

“Dark Goddess” — Photographer: Stig-Lennart Sørensen​ Makeup/Model: Maria Landgaard

Thursday, October 22

Holding Your Own

Trust yourself. Trust what you know.

Sometimes, it is hard to stand in our own truth and trust what we know, especially when others would try to convince us otherwise.

In these cases, others may be dealing with issues of guilt and shame. They may have their own agenda. They may be immersed in denial. They would like us to believe that we do not know what we know; they would like us not to trust ourselves; they would prefer to engage us in their nonsense.

We don’t have to forfeit our truth or our power to others. That is codependency.

Believing lies is dangerous. When we stop trusting our truth, when we repress our instincts, when we tell ourselves there must be something wrong with us for feeling what we feel or believing what we believe, we deal a deadly blow to our self and our health.

When we discount that important part of ourselves that knows what is the truth, we cut ourselves off from our center. We feel crazy. We get into shame, fear, and confusion. We can’t get our bearings when we allow someone to pull the rug from under us.

This does not mean that we are never wrong. But we are not always wrong.

Be open. Stand in our truth. Trust what you know. And refuse to buy into denial, nonsense, bullying, or coercion that would like to take you off course.

Ask to be shown the truth, clearly – not by the person trying to manipulate or convince you, but by yourself, your Higher Power, and the Universe.

Today, I will trust my truth, my instincts, and my ability to ground myself in reality. I will not allow myself to be swayed by bullying, manipulating, games, dishonesty, or people with peculiar agendas.

from “The Language of Letting Go”

Week of October 17th

CURRENTLY:
Sun at 25 Libra (in it’s fall, no Sun Magick now)
Mercury DIRECT at 10 Libra
Venus at 23 Libra (rulership, great for Venus Magick!)
Mars at 24 Gemini
Jupiter RETROGRADE 1 Aries
Saturn RETROGRADE 18 Aquarius (rulership)
Uranus RETROGRADE at 17 Taurus
Neptune RETROGRADE at 23 Pisces (rulership)
Pluto at 26 Capricorn
North Node at 13 Taurus

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We begin this week with a fallow, 4th quarter Moon. We are wrapping things up, finishing projects and adjusting to new conditions. This is the last week of the Sun traveling through Libra, and with the Sun and Venus squaring Pluto, we are facing the toxic sides of our relationships. There’s a New Moon ECLIPSE in Scorpio coming next Tuesday, October 25th as well. All of this happening while Saturn, Mars and Pluto stand still in the sky.

Rest and give yourself time to reflect on how you’d like the upcoming Moon cycle to go. If you’d like a personal reading on how this Scorpio cycle will effect you, you can book a short reading with me here for $45.

Wednesday, October 19th: Moon in Leo, and everyone wants attention. Sun/Venus both square Pluto in the morning, revealing the underbelly of relationships. Be gentle when discussing issues with anyone today. Repressed emotions and fears rise to the surface, driving us towards security. Also, Mercury opposes Chiron giving voice to the health and healing of deep emotional wounds. It’s a transformative day.

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Week of October 10th: Full Moon in Aries

CURRENTLY:
Sun at 17 Libra (in it’s fall, no Sun Magick now)
Mercury DIRECT at 29 Virgo
Venus at 13 Libra
Mars at 22 Gemini
Jupiter RETROGRADE 1 Aries
Saturn at 6 Aquarius (rulership)
Neptune RETROGRADE at 20 Pisces (rulership)
Pluto at 24 Capricorn
North Node at 2 Gemini

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We had a brilliant Full Moon Sunday at 16 Aries, which delivers peak experiences with survival, exploration, physicality, courage, and our personal story. Aries is a feisty sign, and indicates a new beginning. If you saw the Moon, you would notice a huge star in the sky next to it; this is Jupiter currently retrograding through Aries. It expands the power and punch of this week’s energies. If you felt a touch of sadness over the weekend, Chiron was also on the Moon, which symbolizes our deepest wounds.

Meanwhile, Pluto moved Direct on Saturday, but will sit at the same degree for a couple of weeks. Pluto is a heavy influence for the rest of October. Saturn is ALSO standing still in the sky, about to go Direct on October 23rd. When Pluto and Saturn are both stationary and preparing to change direction, their energies grind down on us. It was the conjunction of Pluto and Saturn in January 2020 that heralded the pandemic, so we could experience echos of the last two years.

Wednesday, October 12th: Moon in Taurus goes void of course at 2:42pm, then squares Saturn and conjuncts Pluto in the evening. There could be some heaviness or intensity today. Energy will ramp up and move faster as the Moon moves towards Gemini. Remember what Lao Tzu wrote, “Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them — that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”

Week of October 3rd: Full Moon in Aries

CURRENTLY:
Sun at 10 Libra
Mercury DIRECT at 24 Virgo (good, exalted)
Venus at 4 Libra (good, rulership)
Mars at 20 Gemini
Jupiter RETROGRADE at 2 Aries
Saturn RETROGRADE at 18 Aquarius (rulership)
Uranus RETROGRADE at 18 Taurus
Neptune RETROGRADE 23 Pisces (rulership)
Pluto RETROGRADE at 26 Capricorn
North Node at 13 Taurus

We are building up to the Full Moon at 17 Aries on Sunday. This week starts off quietly, but things will build up to the Full Moon. Also, Mercury went Direct today! Give it a week or two until the planet picks up strong forward motion. Mercury is still in a trine with Mars, and now that the Sun and Venus have moved into Libra, there’s a lot of “Airy” energy flying around. Good time to clear the air with important people, or negotiate new agreements.

Saturn is now squaring Uranus, which could bring up issues (and resolutions) from 2021. This is the LAST of several squares between these two planetary heavyweights. This square has exacerbated the battle between traditional and progressive elements in our country, so watch for more developments coming this month.

Wednesday, October 5th: Moon in Aquarius goes void-of-course at 3:46pm Pacific. The Moon also trines Mars in Gemini, giving us an energetic, sociable boost. Also a conjunction with Saturn, which can lead to a heavy, pessimistic mood. It will pass. Wherever Aquarius falls in your chart is your personal future, so there might be glimpses of it today.

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Week of September 26th: New Moon in Libra

CURRENTLY:
Sun at 3 Libra
Mercury RETROGRADE at 26 Virgo
Venus at 27 Virgo (not good, in her fall)
Mars at 18 Gemini
Jupiter RETROGRADE at 3 Aries
Saturn RETROGRADE at 19 Aquarius (rulership)
Uranus RETROGRADE at 18 Taurus
Neptune RETROGRADE 23 Pisces (rulership)
Pluto RETROGRADE at 26 Capricorn
North Node at 13 Taurus

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As above, so below.
As without, so within.
When we look “out there”, it reflects and mirrors what’s within, which is one reason I like to look at astrology. The Sun is in Libra now, we had a New Moon yesterday, and the Fall Equinox last week. The metaphoric seeds we planted last March have been ripening all year, and we harvest them now. There are aspects this week that will give us real opportunities to change our world for the better.

Sunday’s New Moon in Libra is unfolding this week, so there will be continued developments in partnerships, agreements, romance and diplomacy. Practice the art of balance. The 4th quarter starts next Saturday. This is Libra season, so take some time to reflect on your relationships, and how you’d like the upcoming Moon cycle to go. If you need a personal reading on how this Libra cycle will affect you, book a short reading with me here for $45.

Thursday, September 29th: Moon in Scorpio goes void-of-course at 2:20pm Pacific for the rest of the day, so get your important stuff done in the morning. Also, Venus enters Libra which is her happy place. The planet of Love is home here, and can fully express her grace, manners, wittiness, and power. Women’s energies will be strong for the next month, and we can make incredible progress especially with creativity.

Friday, September 30th: Moon in Sagittarius. Life is imaginative and dreamy today as Venus opposes Neptune. This aspect happens once every 18 months and can indicate wild imagination and/or delusion in the arenas of art and romance. It’s on the Virgo-Pisces axis so we can also access inspiration and compassion. Remember your dreams! This is a great night to meet someone and share lovely moments, just watch out for fantasies taking over the reality.

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