“Men earn their value through their actions, accomplishments, and ability to provide, while women are born with innate value, embodying beauty, grace, and nurturing energy. This is why men are biologically wired to chase their desires, while women are wired to attract them effortlessly.
Many women forget their power or use it in ways that diminish their worth. Instead of embracing their natural magnetism, they plead for love, care, and attention—when, in reality, they only need to nurture themselves to draw everything they desire toward them.
A woman who prioritizes herself—her well-being, her emotional health, her purpose—becomes irresistible. She doesn’t need to chase or beg; she simply radiates an energy that compels the right people, opportunities, and love toward her.
The world has conditioned women to believe they must prove their worth, to give endlessly without receiving in return. But true feminine energy is about receiving just as much as giving. It is about being in flow rather than forcing things to happen.
A woman in her power does not convince a man to love her. She embodies the kind of energy that makes a man want to cherish, protect, and commit to her. She understands that desperation repels, but self-respect and self-care magnetize devotion.
When a woman takes care of herself—emotionally, mentally, and physically—she automatically becomes more attractive. Not just in a superficial way, but in a deep, energetic way that commands respect and admiration.
She no longer settles for breadcrumbs of love. She knows her presence alone is a gift, and she waits for the man who recognizes it without needing to be reminded or begged.
To all women reading this: You are not here to convince someone to choose you. You are here to choose yourself first. And in doing so, you will attract those who truly see and appreciate you.
Honor yourself. Take care of yourself. Walk away from anything that makes you feel less than worthy. The right love will always find its way to a woman who stands in her power.
Let go of the need to chase or prove your worth. You were born with it. All you need to do is own it.”
Interested in a deeper understanding of a current relationship? Want some clarity on your interactions or to know what to expect this year?
In celebration of Valentine’s Day I’m now offering relationship readings!
In this session we will explore how you interact with your partner, what you both bring to the relationship, how to improve things between you, AND what will develop in 2025. This can be a reading between couples, friends, or family members.
This reading will be a combination psychic/astrology reading, so after signing up please email me the date, time and location of your birth, and the other person’s birth, to LizRose93 @gmail.com, and I will send you your chart in preparation for our talk. If you can have this chart in front of you (either printed or on a computer), that would be great.
The astrology I use is a “synastry” chart which compares the life paths of two individuals. It shows how the two people affect each other, what lessons they are learning in their relationship, and how future aspects will be affecting their connection. Synastry is the art of chart comparison. It’s your chart alongside the other persons’ and it clearly shows how your planets aspect one another. The art is in the interpretation, and I have decades of experience with these readings.
For instance, if your Venus is on his Mars or vice versa, or even just trining it – FIREWORKS. However if his Saturn is on your Moon? That’s very limiting and challenging. Sun-Mercury? Communication will not be a problem.
In Synastry it’s the major, close and steamingly obvious aspects that tend to tell the story of your relationship. I look for conjunctions, oppositions, squares or trines in a close “orb” of two degrees or less. When you find the top five aspects voila – there is your compatibility.
I can go even further and create a composite chart (your chart and theirs blended into one) and then progress that to show current influences. If you’re annoyed that their Saturn is on your Moon, you can bring in asteroids too! Who cares about that pesky Saturn-Moon situation when his asteroid Lucifer is on your Nefertiti? Still, I will figure out the five most singular, glaringly obvious aspects and stick with those.
I receive many calls from people interested in spells and Magick, and how to bring a partner back to them. My view is to stick to love spells that bring you the ideal partner for yourself, or better yet, stick to rituals that make you awesome for your own pleasure, and lead you to contentment and joy in being alone. If you aren’t happy alone, you won’t be happy with anyone else, and you’ll ruin everything for them while making your own life harder.
My view is to get your life together, do the work on yourself, heal the breaches, and fix your issues. There are amazing people out there waiting for someone worth spending their time with, but who have already done a lot of work on themselves.
Be the best person you can be. Deal with your bitterness, your insecurities, your broken relationships, the holes in your soul, your mom and dad issues. Be the person you need to be, so you can be a good partner to someone. The bar is high for awesome. Have a good life, and share that with other people. There are so many people out there ready for a grown up illuminated person.
“The comedian Hope Woodard is spreading the word about her yearlong break from sex and dating. One fan calls it “this year’s hottest mental health craze.”
…”During her time at the mic, “Ms. Woodard described moments when she was the villain of her own dating story — times when she had led someone on, or had allowed herself to be treated poorly because she wanted attention.”
A big part of the yearlong break from sex and romance is unlearning the unhealthy relationship patterns that often get passed down from generation to generation. “Maybe we are one of the first generations of women where we don’t actually have to plug into a man for, like, energy and power and whatever,” Ms. Woodard said.
Ms. Wright, 25, pointed to the pressure on women to earn male attention. “When that dissolves,” she said, “there’s a whole new world that opens.”
Ms. Woodard said that, growing up in the South, she was raised to please others. Now, she said, she sometimes struggles with knowing what she wants. At its core, her “boysober” year is about learning how to say no.
“I’m a little bit angry at myself and angry at all the sex that I’ve had that I feel like I didn’t choose,” she said. “For the first time ever, I just feel like I have ownership over my body.”
Catie Kobland, 24, a nanny and graduate student in Manhattan who attended the event, said that she and her friends “go celibate” every so often.
“When you get out of a relationship, or you have a really bad situationship and dating or seeing people is tainted, and you want to rinse it from your mouth, I feel like the best way to do it is celibacy,” Ms. Kobland said. “It’s this year’s hottest mental health craze.”
I’ve had a few one-sided relationships in my life, and of course it all started with my relationship with my alcoholic father. When I saw this picture from the “Rising Woman” website, it really reminded me of growing up with a distant father. Seems like many kids who grew up in the 70’s experienced the same thing.
My dad had very low self esteem, and no tools to manage his emotions. The only thing he knew to do was drink and create emotional and physical distance from people. When my Mom left him in 1969, he punished her by emotionally abandoning me. The result was I had difficulty trusting men, and would usually choose someone who was a workaholic, heavy drinker, physically compromised or burdened with responsibilities.
Thanks to my work in programs like Alanon, I’ve been able to work through a lot of these issues. Alanon is free and available to anyone dealing with an alcoholic or addict. I highly recommend it! Here’s more information from Rising Woman about one sided relationships with romantic partners:
“Ever find yourself clinging to a one-sided relationship with an emotionally unavailable partner?
A good question to ask when we notice this is:
“What part of me is it that wants this so badly?”
Sometimes it’s our most wounded self… or our “child-self” that takes over and gets caught in the pain and fear of not being chosen.
… The fear of being abandoned.
Our emotions are powerful. And to become more Conscious and self-loving… It’s our job to learn how to listen to our emotions and act from a place of self-worth.
(Rather than react out of discomfort.)
We often simply mask our discomfort to avoid feeling abandoned, unloved, or unworthy, without really going to the root cause.
We’re temporarily soothing ourselves with a chase… or giving ourselves away in dead-end relationships.
… But we’re not actually getting what we want or what we deserve from a relationship.
If they say they can’t commit – Believe them.
If they tell you they aren’t ready – Believe them.
If they say “I like you, but I’m selfish” – Believe them.
People don’t necessarily want to hurt us, but the reality is, unless they’ve done their inner-work and are aware enough to act Consciously, their actions may be entirely self-serving; which leaves you feeling unsupported.
It’s up to you to be your own wise, nurturing and loving inner-parent.
Remind yourself that it’s safe to be loved…
That healthy love doesn’t have to be boring…
Learn to see the signs of when you might be confusing chaos with chemistry.
You are here to be loved and cherished.
You have the capacity to step into your worth. And stretch yourself to show up powerfully in all of your relationships.
“THE MAN WHO WALKS WITH THE HEALER~ When a man chooses a woman who follows her calling, his only chance to maintain the connection is in following her… and above all in creating space for her to follow her own path.
It may happen that he needs to abandon his own neediness, or that he finds a means of healing through their common path – but not in the gentlest manner.
When a man chooses a woman who heals the collective wounds of the women by following her calling, his Yes for her equals a Yes to a bigger purpose far beyond building a house or raising children. Their connection goes beyond fulfilling the classical gender role models.
For this man accepts the job of having the back of this woman, of catching her when she cannot transform the pain of the world anymore. It means for him to welcome a different form of sexuality, since healing on the level of sexuality is one of the most profound issues of the woman who needs to become a healer. For him this, again, is about welcoming slowness, softness and healing – about holding back or redirecting his own drive… about being present for the whole.
Because when a man chooses a woman who aims for freedom, they can only achieve this together… and by him leaving his narcissistic aspects behind and recognizing the path of the woman as his own path towards freedom.
When a man chooses a woman who is bigger, he cannot dwell in the places of energies of oppression or of playing small. He – if he chooses to take on this mission with her – accepts a task serving the well-being of all men, even though it happens in the background. Within this background he creates space of security, of keeping her safe from an ambush bred by his own old wounds, driving her into submission.
When a man chooses a woman out of his fascination with her radiance and wisdom, it must be obvious to him that he cannot be stuck within his own deficits in a way that makes him want to diminish her radiance… purely out of fear of having to share her with others.
When a man chooses a woman who follows her calling, he cannot fear these words: respect, humility and surrender. He will rather walk the path of divinity – alongside his woman, the healer – with gratitude and an overflowing heart.
For such a woman will choose – if she ever needs to choose – in favour of the well-being of all women …and she will choose walking her path alone instead of leaving it for him. Nevertheless, she is aware of the power that lies in the presence of a man who is beating the drums… for her.”
…”when you meet and date a secure person, something just doesn’t feel quite right. Despite the fact they’re comfortable with emotions, don’t play games and don’t keep you guessing…
You still can’t put your finger on this something.
Well, it’s likely you… not them.
Your brain tricking you, don’t fall for it if you want a secure relationship.
Here’s why dating a secure person feels boring………..
You’re Addicted to Drama in Relationships
“Mismatched attachment styles can lead to a great deal of unhappiness … even for people who love each other greatly.” — Amir Levine
When you’ve got two insecurely attached people in a relationship, it creates an addictive pattern.
Let’s say you’ve got an avoidant person and an anxious person, and they’re dating.
Anxious person — They want the avoidant person to reassure them and show them they care. Anxiously attached people often have low-self esteem and fear abandonment by their partner.
Avoidant person — They don’t like emotional displays because they feel overwhelmed by them. They might begin pulling away from the anxious person and use excuses to avoid them.
In this situation, the anxious person might begin feeling like they’ve done something wrong. Their heart rate goes up; they might feel sweaty and stressed out.
They grab their phone and write a long message to the person. They’re breathing rapidly, and they’re nervous about sending the text.
They just want to fix what they’ve done and make things ‘right’ again. Maybe they try and use sex to do this, I did.
Amir Levine said:
“The trick is not to get hooked on the highs and lows and mistake an activated attachment system for passion or love.”
And if the avoidant person replies or tries to get in touch again, the anxious person feels relieved.
Endorphins rush through their body and brain. The pain in their stomach dissolves, “phew,” they let out a sigh.
It’s like a heroin user getting their fix.
Only this time, the anxious person will walk on eggshells. They’ll stuff their wants and needs down.
It always comes back up again, though, which scares the other person away. And the pattern repeats itself until one person backs away for good.
Dating A Secure Person Feels Like You’re Going Cold Turkey
“You are absolutely worthy of love. You are made of love and you don’t need someone to trigger you into it by their unavailability.” — Damien Bohler
When you’re used to the toxic and high arousal of insecure relationships, secure people won’t give you that addictive hit. Secure people:
Don’t play games
Know what they want, and they will tell you
Won’t push you away if you open up to them
Aren’t codependent
Aren’t afraid of talking about their feelings with you.
This can be terrifying for an insecurely attached person.
When you’ve been used to rollercoaster relationships your whole life, something predictable and stable shocks you.
You might believe there’s no connection between you and the secure person because they don’t trigger the rush you’re used to.
You may want to run and go back to someone who clings on or pushes away because you think this is passion and love.
It’s not passion. It’s insecure attachment.
Stop! Don’t Jump Ship Yet
“In short, secure attachment is attunement. It reflects a positive-enough environment that creates and engenders basic trust.” — Diane Poole Heller
If you’re dating someone secure, the insecure part of you might feel tempted to hightail it. If you feel there’s no connection there, ask yourself:
Is this predictability activating my insecure attachment?
If you persevere and push through the discomfort, you’ll soon learn if it is insecure attachment or if you genuinely don’t have a connection.
It’s important to remember you’ve been used to ups and downs, and it might feel uncomfortable at first dating someone secure.
You might think your connection is dull and lacking passion. Here’s what a secure relationship looks like:
Healthy, secure relationships won’t give you emotional whiplash.
There’s a sense of trust and respect for each other.
You both are comfortable hanging out with friends separately and doing your own thing.
Showing each other love and affection is easy.
Dianne Pool Heller rightly said:
“As we familiarize ourselves more with secure attachment, our relationships become easier and more rewarding — we’re less reactive, more receptive, more available for connection, healthier, and much more likely to bring out the securely attached tendencies in others.”
When your partner models to you what a healthy attachment style is, you tend to follow suit. Even better if you can work on yourself too.
I’m glad I didn’t bail on my partner when I felt overwhelmed, because I wouldn’t have learned what a stable relationship is.
“We may find distant or avoidant partners alluring because their avoidance is a challenge for our ego …
We might find it more exciting to be caught up in a push-pull dynamic with someone, than to say yes to love that is readily available and healthy for us.
The excitement comes from eroticizing rejection – it feeds that part of us that still feels like have something to prove.
Prove we’re lovable or worthy. That we are so special that we can change someone’s mind or behaviour.
But that excitement you feel is also draining your energy and soul-sucking on so many levels.
When we abandon ourselves for someone who’s undeserving of our energy, our inner-child is is usually hurting deeply and feeling afraid to be alone.
It’s ok to walk away when your heart isn’t being cherished, honored or supported.
We’re all going to have days where we show up as the worst version of ourselves.
But at the end of the day, we all deserve to be with someone who we know is in our corner.
Someone who loves us on the hard days and treats the relationship as sacred.
Any time we waste chasing someone to give us love, there’s an unmet internal need for love and nurturance toward our inner-child.
You don’t need someone to reflect back your wounds without being willing to heal with you.
You don’t need someone to trigger all of your insecurities by treating you like an after-thought or avoiding intimacy.
It might feel unnatural to let go of this type of connection because you’re breaking a very old pattern … you might even find it “boring” to move towards love that doesn’t trigger you.
Don’t worry, this doesn’t make you “crazy”, it means you really want to heal.
And to heal, you have to practice letting healthy love in.
Healing occurs as you sever your addictions to shadow relationships and move toward people who hold you in your highest light.
Healing comes from doing Self-acceptance work and making the relationship with YOU and your inner-child the number one relationship in your life.
And healing occurs from understanding yourself and your true nature in relationship.”
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