The importance of integrity

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Make an effort to be a person of character.  From my experience, I’ve found it’s the best thing you can do for yourself in your life.

Taking firm responsibility for yourself and your choices will set you apart from the crowd, and along with hard work, will bring you anything you want.

I was at a conference of female musicians once, and had the good fortune to hear Patti Smith reviewing her life and career. The most important thing in life, she said, is your credibility. If you lack credibility with people, or lose it, it’s hard to get it back. It’s the foundation of moving forward in life and finding true fulfillment and lasting friendships.

A friend posted this article today and I have to share it with you! These are traits I aspire to in my own life.

13 Traits of People With True Integrity

Integrity, for those who are not familiar, is quite important. It is the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles.
People who have a strong sense of integrity are sadly a rare breed. However, there are still some people left in this world with integrity, and usually, they share the following 13 traits.

1. They value other people’s time.
They value their own time so they also value the time of other people. They know you have plenty of other places you need to be and won’t hold you up. If you spend time with them, it is likely they will thank you for that as well.

2. They give credit where it is due.
They do not take credit for things they did not do. They will always credit those who deserve it. If you help this person with a project he or she will likely mention your name so you can take credit for your work.

3. They are authentic.
They are their truest forms. You won’t catch them in a lie or being fake.

4. They are always honest.
They are honest people that feel no need to lie as it is important for them to get to where they need to get in life honestly.

5. They never take advantage of others.
They are not the kind of people who will take advantage of someone else. They love to build people up and help them get where they need to be. Taking too much from someone else will never be an issue with someone who has a lot of integrity.

6. They do not argue over disagreements.
They will talk through things in a civil manner or not talk at all. You cannot and will not force this person into arguing over something completely ridiculous. I find this to be a very respectable trait.

7. They give most people the benefit of the doubt.
They try to see the good in everyone. I think this is because they feel like maybe there are more people in this world that also have integrity. That being said, if you take advantage of them too much they will get rid of you.

8. They know when something is bothering someone.
They have a great intuition that lets them know when something is going on. If someone is down in the dumps they will notice. Chances are they will actually do what they can to cheer you up.

9. They believe others.
They accept your word as truth until it is disproven. That being said, they do not take lying well. And once you lie to them, it is unlikely that they will ever take your word again.

10. They apologize first.
If they have done something wrong they will come to you and apologize. This is just how they are. They own up to their mistake and try to make things right.

11. They are humble.
They do not quite know their own worth. While they are very important and do so much good they don’t quite see it. You should remind them of it.

12. They do good when they can.
They are always helping other people. They love to know that they have improved someone’s life. It gives their lives meaning.

13. They are always kind to those who need it.
Giving kindness can go a long way. When someone looks like they need a little pick me up these people deliver. They can brighten up almost anyone’s day.

If you are someone who has true integrity, thank you for being who you are and thank you for all that you do. You really do actually make a difference in society, please keep up the good work. If you feel no one else is proud of you, know that I am.

Hail unto the mighty Spring

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Sun into Aries: 9:15am Pacific.

Happy Spring Equinox and Thelemic New Year! Today, with the Sun’s entrance into Aries, we start a new astrological year. Try to plant something today, or pledge yourself to something you’d like to grow in your life this year. Whether it is courage, strength or love, you will harvest it in the Autumn.

Here is a prayer that His Holiness the Dalai Lama recites every morning as part of his waking rituals. This applies to all beliefs around the world – and you can pray for this too:

Bodhisattva Prayer for Humanity

“May I be a guard for those who need protection
A guide for those on the path
A boat, a raft, a bridge for those who wish to cross the flood

May I be a lamp in the darkness
A resting place for the weary
A healing medicine for all who are sick
A vase of plenty, a tree of miracles
And for the boundless multitudes of living beings

May I bring sustenance and awakening
Enduring like the earth and sky
Until all beings are freed from sorrow
And all are awakened.

New Moon of the Fish

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New Moon in Pisces: March 17, 2018 at 6:12am Pacific.
Mars into Capricorn at 9:40am

This New Moon is extremely healing to our personal, emotional and spiritual lives. Chiron, the Wounded Healer, is conjunct the Sun and Moon in Pisces on Saturday. This brings extra depth to the healing vibe of this aspect. We have explored our deep sensitivities over the last month with the Sun and it’s entourage swimming through the sign of the fish. This New Moon is the final revelation for our growth over the past month, and it’s a good time to be in tune with our instincts and where the flow of our life is taking us.

Events in our lives are unfolding that spur deep healing on our past emotional wounds, so we can let our baggage go. With the Sun’s entrance into Aries on Tuesday, heralding the Spring Equinox, we begin a fresh new astrological year, so this weekend is the final purification.

If we reflect on the past month, we will see the enormous healing we have undertaken in our emotional lives and patterns.

Austin Coppock:
“Although the New Moon does not technically take place until around dawn on Saturday, this is more the night of the New Moon than tomorrow. As the Sun and Moon come together in Pisces, look back over the last month, and reflect on what understandings emerged. What pearls will you walk away from the Sun’s time in oceanic Pisces this year?”

https://smartmindmag.com/march-17th-the-most-powerful-healing-new-moon/?c=educate:

“On March 17th, the sun, the new moon, and the planetoid Chiron will all be huddled together gracing the sky in the sensitive zodiac sign of Pisces. This may sound cosy and blissful, as Chiron is an immensely healing planet, Pisces is intuitive, soft, and sensual, and the sun is warm, energising, and illuminating. However, the moon will be at its darkest and in its shadow stage. This means that any painful lessons that we have tried to ignore and deny will be forcing their way to the surface, and they won’t disappear, so we’ll have no option but to confront and deal with them.
Emotional and sensitive Pisces will be doing its best to highlight our unhealed emotional wounds, fears, and insecurities. But thankfully, Chiron is right on hand to offer empathy, compassion, and gentle, soothing, loving care.
During this new moon we will likely notice we feel pulled toward others in the hope that they will do the work for us and validate our irrational thoughts and feelings, even though it would benefit us more if we worked on self-love and self-acceptance as a way of calming our ego.
When our ego is out of control our mind creates chaotic circumstances, and if we believe all the drama going on in our head, what starts off quietly in our internal world quickly manifests into the external world in a disorderly and dysfunctional way.

Low self-esteem is one of the major issues that will be arising on this new moon, even for those who think they are self-confident and self-assured. Therefore, we will notice that the collective energy is one that is seeking out external support, encouragement, and guidance, rather than learning how to find and embrace these things within ourselves.
Validation can be a beautiful bonding tool for connection. However, we should never have to seek or demand it from anyone, although many of us regularly do. Validation is only meaningful when it is offered freely and sincerely, and not when we have had to force it out of someone through tantrums or manipulation. It doesn’t need words. We just need to know we are safe, held, and deeply accepted, and that is enough to calm our insecurities and fears, whether validation is self-given or comes from another person.
Chiron has been resting in the sign of Pisces since May 2010 and won’t be leaving until March 2019, and while it is fused there it will be doing a tremendous amount of work to help us become aware of our open, festering wounds that persistently taunt and trigger us. Whenever the sun and moon are in close transition to Chiron we receive the opportunity to notice what is causing us the most amount of emotional pain, and to see exactly where our pain is rooted.
The majority of the wounds that Chiron awakens us to are the ones that begun in our early childhood or adolescent years, so they are often firmly embedded in, causing us to feel like they are part of who we are. The moment we notice exactly what is causing so much hurt and anguish within our psyche, we create a tremendous shift that propels us on a healing journey so we can rationally process what we went through, why we are still holding on to underlying emotions and beliefs, and, most importantly, how we can transcend through it to reach a place of inner peace and bliss.
Although it may seem easier to distract ourselves and not pay attention to what goes on below the surface, when we ignore our core wounds, all that happens is they will cry out for attention in a variety of harmful ways, and this results in trauma and destruction in many of our personal relationships. We will subconsciously keep replaying the same stories over and again in the hope that whatever is upset, rejected, suppressed, or angry on the inside will eventually get the chance to be heard, healed, and freed.
Chiron is the exact energy needed to dig in deep and softly touch the areas that are raw and tender, as parts of us have felt lost and abandoned while we distracted ourselves within the busyness of life. We may have tried to mask or numb these aching aspects of our internal selves by turning to toxic relationships, alcohol, drugs, or addictions of various kinds that may seem harmless at first glance, but on a soul level are serving to sustain the damage we have held for years.
This bruising, that almost all of us hold within our emotional bodies, may regularly be touched and triggered. When that happens eruptions occur and our emotions will flare up, seemingly out of nowhere. New and full moons are intense energetic periods, and are known for highlighting and magnifying our unhealed and repressed emotional wounds. This is why during these amplified lunar phases we often feel tightly coiled and as though the slightest irritation could send us off balance and reeling toward a mini meltdown.
Chiron is here to support our personal growth so that we shift from wounded, pain-filled beings into free-spirited, light-hearted, carefree souls, purely through the realisation and fearless self-acceptance that our shadowy dark side—that we keep hidden—is nothing to feel scared of or ashamed about. We can reach in and hold out a hand to our inner child that has sat in the darkness tortured by abandonment and rejection. Slowly we can gain the trust of the parts of ourselves that we have pushed away and dismissed, and we can offer an unconditionally loving embrace to show that we accept each part of ourselves; the dark, the light, and every shade in between.
New moons are a time of new beginnings and they open the doorway to our subconscious mind; therefore, this lunation deliver the ideal space to softly and slowly travel inward so that we can delicately communicate with all that we’ve pushed aside. When we do this we will notice magnificent transformation not just in the way we feel about ourselves, but also how we connect and communicate with the people around us, particularly within our most intimate relationships.
When we are entering a healing phase, it is vital that we nurture and nourish ourselves, and as water is a powerful healing element we can enhance our healing by indulging ourselves with by soaking in an Epsom Salt bath and adding a soothing essential oil, or if possible going somewhere where it is possible to bathe outdoors under the starlit sky.
If we are staying indoors during the new moon we can put on music that speaks to our soul and relax fully knowing that we are safe, supported, and held in the lunar energy that is emanating from above. Once we feel settled and peaceful we can then ask the questions we have been longing to find answers to, so we connect to our innermost desires. When we locate what our heart longs for, we will also then discover what painful emotions are creating resistance, and from there we will find a way to heal the wounds that have caused us to be weighed down and to remain stuck, repeating similar scenarios for so long.
All that is needed is silence, faith, and the fearlessness to travel inward knowing that whatever is unveiled during this healing process is perfectly acceptable, as we are all divine beings and we are all already perfect and precious—regardless of the stories our critical mind might tell.
This Pisces new moon, with Chiron’s healing influence, is the greatest opportunity for wound-healing we will receive throughout this entire year. It is a temporary portal that allows us access to the darkest parts of our soul, but to enter, we have to take a deep breath, be willing to be vulnerable, and bravely dive in to the core of our being. Responsibilities may be pressing you to come up with a solution but it’s questionable whether the choices you’re making are leading you down the right path or whether you’re going down a rabbit hole on some wild, mushroom-gathering mission.
What if I told you that whatever you’re doing lately (or not doing at all) is actively contributing to the dissolution of what’s not working for you? What if deep down, your intuition was guiding you to focus on those things that are somehow contributing to your discomfort, disillusionment, disorder and despair – even disease?

It’s possible that what you’re doing, however creative, is purposely serving to break down any ego-attachments.
Look at any suffering as a voluntary choice to go against your own spiritual evolution. How much do you want it if it only brings your mind/body down? How much do you need it? Either way – dissolution, destruction, extinction, transcendence… to Spirit, it’s the same thing.
#ᴀᴤᴛʀᴏʟᴏɢʏØʄɴᴏᴡ Ch ♓ – ♀/♂
#FlakersAndFakers
PISCES NEW MOON (26°♓53′ ) is on Saturday, March 17 01:12 UTC. Get set to make an intention on how to let go.

LOVE ZOMBIE WARNING:
Be aware that this much pure vibe in Pisces can trigger a Love Zombie relapse.
Police your own mind like you are the riot squad and avoid falling into a ‘stalking your ex/crush/whoever’ pothole.
And INSTEAD, use this vibe to get stunning insights re anything thing, person or substance that you would place even vaguely on the addiction or co-dependency spectrum.

 

Stephen Hawking on Prediction and Astrology

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“Watch out for wormholes: you never know what may come out of them.” 
— Stephen Hawking

 One of the first things people want to know about Tarot is how it works. Most seasoned practitioners will admit they haven’t a clue but have considered a few possibilities including:

  • Carl Jung’s theory of synchronicity (not really a theory but rather a belief in meaningful coincidence) 
  • Quantum physics (theory of entanglement, etc.)
  • Psychological projection (as a kind of Rorschach test)
  • Contact with a Spiritual Being, Higher Self, Universal Consciousness or paranormal force
  • Magic(k) (an as-yet-unknown scientific principle)
  • One’s subconscious directing the placement of the cards
  • Self-fulfilling prophecies
  • A mentalist’s set of cold-reading tricks conjoined with the Barnum Effect

I was fascinated to see that the physicist, Stephen Hawking, in The Universe in a Nutshell (albeit a rehash of his earlier work) addresses this very concern. In a chapter called “Predicting the Future,” he compares astrology…

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Fulfillment

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“Everything I need shall be provided today. Everything. Say it, until you believe it. Say it at the beginning of the day. Say it throughout the day.
Sometimes, it helps to know what we want and need. But if we don’t, we can trust that the Universe does.
When we ask, trust, and believe that our needs will be met, our needs will be met. Sometimes God cares about the silliest little things, if we do.
Today, I will affirm that my needs will be met. I will affirm that the Universe cares and is the Source of my supply. Then I will let go and see that what I have risked to believe is the truth.”

– From “The Language of Letting Go”

 

Magicians

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From Lev Grossman, the author of “The Magicians” that spawned the show on SYFY (I love that show):

“A magician is strong because he feels pain. He feels the difference between what the world is and what he would make of it.Most people carry that pain around inside them their whole lives, until they kill the pain by other means, or until it kills them. But you, my friends, you found another way: a way to use the pain. To burn it as fuel, for light and warmth. You have learned to break the world that has tried to break you.”

This is a wonderful statement. A magician is (hopefully) someone who looks at their pain and tries to feel it and understand it. The challenges we’ve been through in our past is part of what shapes our Will (the reason we are here) in the world. We’re not running away from hard times but validating them as lessons and as a way to know and love ourselves! Are you a magician?

“Magic is the highest, most absolute, and most divine knowledge of natural philosophy, advanced in its works and wonderful operations by a right understanding of the inward and occult virtue of things; so that true agents being applied to proper patients, strange and admirable effects will thereby be produced. Whence magicians are profound and diligent searchers into nature; they, because of their skill, know how to anticipate an effect, the which to the vulgar shall seem to be a miracle.”
– The Goetia of the Lemegeton of King Solomon

 

Full Moon in Virgo

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Full Moon in Virgo: 4:51pm Pacific.
Sun, Mercury, Venus, Neptune and Chiron in Pisces.

That’s a lot of water (emotions, love, intuitiveness) in the skies right now. When the Sun goes into Pisces every February, I see it as a time of great healing, creativity and romance. Today’s Full Moon in Virgo adds to the healing vibe. Whatever’s been going on in your life the last two weeks will culminate in the next few days.

Virgo is the maiden in the field – connected to the Earth and beginning a harvest of the seeds she has planted. With her connection to the Earth, she is a great healer, and because she stands alone she heals herself. Virgo is ruled by Mercury (the mind). She clears her fogginess (Pisces) so she can sharpen her focus on things she wants to manifest. She is the agent of organization and getting your s*** together. Does this image relate to your current life experiences in any way?

Virgo is about attaining your goals with a practical approach. What are your goals? And do you have a solid plan to achieve them? How do you use your time each day; do you have a schedule? What’s your health and fitness like these days; have you been partying a lot with alcohol, sugary treats, marijuana, television or shopping? Virgo is also the sign of purity — the purity needed to live our lives happily and healthfully. Are you lost in your fantasies (Pisces) about how you want your life to be? The Full Moon today encourages you to take a reality check on your life, set some goals, create a plan and get to work.

There’s a lot of emotion in this full moon, so things may be stirring within you as a result. With Jupiter in Scorpio, it may be something quite deep, repressed, or even previously hidden.

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I do private, one-on-one consultations via Skype, FaceTime, and phone, which allow us to delve into your chart and reveal where this full moon will manifest. Go to my appointments page to book a session!

stand in truth

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I learned that who doesn’t look for you, doesn’t miss you.
And who doesn’t miss you doesn’t care for you…
Destiny determines who enters your life but YOU decide who stays…
Therefore, value whoever values you, and don’t treat someone as a priority if they treat you as an option.

Singles Awareness

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As a follow up to my post on relationships, here’s a great quote for single people:

“There’s so much more to life than finding someone who will want you, or being sad over someone who doesn’t. There’s a lot of wonderful time to be spent discovering yourself without hoping someone will fall in love with you along the way, and it doesn’t need to be painful or empty. You need to fill yourself up with love. Not anyone else. Become a whole being on your own. Go on adventures, fall asleep in the woods with friends, wander around the city at night, sit in a coffee shop on your own, write on bathroom stalls, leave notes in library books, dress up for yourself, give to others, smile a lot.

Do all things with love, but don’t romanticize life like you can’t survive without it. Live for yourself and be happy on your own. It isn’t any less beautiful, I promise.”

—Emery Allen #TodaysMantra

Happy Love Day

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Happy Valentine’s Day! I love to celebrate love because it truly is the reason we are all here. It’s the most beautiful part of being human! Well, that and melted cheese, but anyway….

The majority of my readings are relationship readings, and I want to share a few things I’ve learned throughout my career.

  1. The future is unknown. If you “let go and let god”, you will be amazed at what the Universe brings to your life. I’ve seen it happen over and over again. Literally ANYTHING can happen, and I believe the Universe wants us to fulfill ourselves. I’ve seen people find happiness while being single; people that feel hopeless about finding love, sure that they will “die alone”, end up in exciting, committed relationships. I’ve seen relationships come back from breakups and recommit; I’ve seen people thrilled with “the chase” and the rush of new relationships learn to love themselves and the unfolding of love.
  2. Love is in your ACTIONS, not your words.
  3. You have to be in reality. It’s easy to get swept up in romantic fantasies, but in the end they keep you from being present with the person you’re getting to know. The person you meet in the first three months of a relationship is not the real person. People are shy and it takes time to trust each other. Be patient and get to know people. This will keep you from getting hurt most of the time. I heard once it takes three years to really know someone.
  4. Speak your TRUTH. What is your truth? What’s really going on with you and your partner, and are you holding back on communicating something you need to get off your chest? If your partner can’t receive your truth, and shuts down communication all the time, you might have grown past the person. True love is when both partners want the relationship to work and want to respect each others’ feelings, needs, desires and goals.
  5. Respect other peoples’ TRUTH. Listen to what your partner says and respect what’s important to them. Really Listen. What are the other person’s needs, feelings and goals? Then honestly look and see if you’re in alignment with each other.
  6. Be aware of when you’re projecting your past hurts onto others. I think relationships are little incubators for us to heal our past traumas. Not everyone is capable of doing this, and that’s OK, but your stuff WILL come up!
  7. Don’t date someone’s potential. It’s hard to remember that when you’re in the throes of infatuation, or if you’re a highly intuitive person. What is the person doing NOW in the present? Because that’s what you got 🙂
  8. BE Yourself. It’s OK if you’re not perfect.
  9. Take responsibility for your own happiness. You can’t fix someone, and no one can fix you. Each person has to save themselves. Relationships work best when two people, each whole unto themselves, come together to share their lives. Expecting someone to make up for your deficiency just doesn’t work.
  10. Trust your instincts. Your gut will tell if you if someone is right for you or not.
  11. Practice gratitude and validation everyday! This helps us focus on what’s working, rather than focusing on problems.

I LOVE this guy too:

Have a great day everybody!