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Did you dream last night?
What did you all dream about last night? We had a New Moon in Scorpio in the middle of the night, so whatever you dreamed, or whatever has been coming to you in the last couple of days, is very important. These are messages about your path forward, be sure and pay attention.
This is Why Your Brain Thinks Dating A Secure Person Is Boring
Excellent post by Kathrine Meraki in The Ascent!
Here’s the full article: https://medium.com/the-ascent/this-is-why-your-brain-thinks-dating-a-secure-person-is-boring-ce24487c8fa4
…”when you meet and date a secure person, something just doesn’t feel quite right. Despite the fact they’re comfortable with emotions, don’t play games and don’t keep you guessing…
You still can’t put your finger on this something.
Well, it’s likely you… not them.
Your brain tricking you, don’t fall for it if you want a secure relationship.
Here’s why dating a secure person feels boring………..
You’re Addicted to Drama in Relationships
“Mismatched attachment styles can lead to a great deal of unhappiness … even for people who love each other greatly.” — Amir Levine
When you’ve got two insecurely attached people in a relationship, it creates an addictive pattern.
Let’s say you’ve got an avoidant person and an anxious person, and they’re dating.
- Anxious person — They want the avoidant person to reassure them and show them they care. Anxiously attached people often have low-self esteem and fear abandonment by their partner.
- Avoidant person — They don’t like emotional displays because they feel overwhelmed by them. They might begin pulling away from the anxious person and use excuses to avoid them.
In this situation, the anxious person might begin feeling like they’ve done something wrong. Their heart rate goes up; they might feel sweaty and stressed out.
They grab their phone and write a long message to the person. They’re breathing rapidly, and they’re nervous about sending the text.
They just want to fix what they’ve done and make things ‘right’ again. Maybe they try and use sex to do this, I did.
Amir Levine said:
“The trick is not to get hooked on the highs and lows and mistake an activated attachment system for passion or love.”
And if the avoidant person replies or tries to get in touch again, the anxious person feels relieved.
Endorphins rush through their body and brain. The pain in their stomach dissolves, “phew,” they let out a sigh.
It’s like a heroin user getting their fix.
Only this time, the anxious person will walk on eggshells. They’ll stuff their wants and needs down.
It always comes back up again, though, which scares the other person away. And the pattern repeats itself until one person backs away for good.
Dating A Secure Person Feels Like You’re Going Cold Turkey
“You are absolutely worthy of love. You are made of love and you don’t need someone to trigger you into it by their unavailability.” — Damien Bohler
When you’re used to the toxic and high arousal of insecure relationships, secure people won’t give you that addictive hit. Secure people:
- Don’t play games
- Know what they want, and they will tell you
- Won’t push you away if you open up to them
- Aren’t codependent
- Aren’t afraid of talking about their feelings with you.
This can be terrifying for an insecurely attached person.
- When you’ve been used to rollercoaster relationships your whole life, something predictable and stable shocks you.
- You might believe there’s no connection between you and the secure person because they don’t trigger the rush you’re used to.
- You may want to run and go back to someone who clings on or pushes away because you think this is passion and love.
It’s not passion. It’s insecure attachment.
Stop! Don’t Jump Ship Yet
“In short, secure attachment is attunement. It reflects a positive-enough environment that creates and engenders basic trust.” — Diane Poole Heller
If you’re dating someone secure, the insecure part of you might feel tempted to hightail it. If you feel there’s no connection there, ask yourself:
Is this predictability activating my insecure attachment?
If you persevere and push through the discomfort, you’ll soon learn if it is insecure attachment or if you genuinely don’t have a connection.
It’s important to remember you’ve been used to ups and downs, and it might feel uncomfortable at first dating someone secure.
You might think your connection is dull and lacking passion. Here’s what a secure relationship looks like:
- Healthy, secure relationships won’t give you emotional whiplash.
- There’s a sense of trust and respect for each other.
- You both are comfortable hanging out with friends separately and doing your own thing.
- Showing each other love and affection is easy.
Dianne Pool Heller rightly said:
“As we familiarize ourselves more with secure attachment, our relationships become easier and more rewarding — we’re less reactive, more receptive, more available for connection, healthier, and much more likely to bring out the securely attached tendencies in others.”
When your partner models to you what a healthy attachment style is, you tend to follow suit. Even better if you can work on yourself too.
I’m glad I didn’t bail on my partner when I felt overwhelmed, because I wouldn’t have learned what a stable relationship is.
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Week of November 9th
CURRENTLY:
Sun at 18 Scorpio
Mercury at 29 Libra
Venus at 15 Libra
Mars STATIONARY at 15 Aries (Rulership)
Jupiter at 22 Capricorn (fall, very weak)
Saturn at 26 Capricorn (rulership)
Neptune RETROGRADE at 18 Pisces (rulership, strong)
Pluto at 22 Capricorn
North Node at 21 Gemini
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There are HUGE planetary events this week, but we are in the dark of the Moon, so just take it easy and rest. The Moon is waning until this Saturday evening, November 14th, when we have a New Moon in Scorpio.
Currently, Mars is at a dead stop in the sky, and will turn Direct (move forwards) on Friday – just in time for the New Moon in Scorpio on Saturday night. This is not the week to take action, it is a week of reflection, blending with the already quiet nature of the dark moon. We reassess our ambitions while Mars is retrograde, and revaluate our life path and direction. Next week we can move forward in a fresh alignment with the life and world we want to create. Here are some questions to ask yourself this week with regards to the Mars station:
What kind of life do you want to lead, and are your current actions in alignment with creating it? If not, perhaps it’s time to make some changes.
Are your goals in alignment with your true and highest self?
Your energy and drive are valuable; is it worth what you’re spending our time on?
The Mars station is a big deal, and it could bring a rise in tension this week, but there’s something even BIGGER happening! The REAL news, is Jupiter and Pluto meeting together at the same degree that started the pandemic in January. These two heavyweights will form a conjunction on Saturday at 22 Capricorn – the same degree as the Saturn/Pluto conjunction on January 12th which spawned the pandemic. This means it will feel like we are returning to the beginning of the story, but with all of the insight we’ve had this year. Jupiter expands and Pluto brings the disease, so prepare for a huge spike in cases. We will also see huge shifts in world power, since Capricorn rules the establishment. Perhaps another market crash…
This is the third and final Jupiter – Pluto conjunction in this cycle. It’s very strong and will be with this us throughout November. The first two conjunctions happened on April 5th and June 30th, so look back to these dates to see what themes you might be revisiting. What problems remain unsolved? What have you learned since those conjunctions? Has your definition of success changed? Have you found a sound basis for optimism?
While Jupiter can indicate success, joy, justice, expansion, religious understanding, and such positive qualities as generosity, optimism and hospitality, in essence Jupiter amplifies. Here Jupiter amplifies Pluto, Pluto is not only about destruction, it can indicate deep healing, tranquility, social and spiritual reform and transformation, necessary repairs, and rebirth collective and personal. How do we get the best from Pluto? Do the research. Make changes conscientiously. Include the greater good in your definition of success. Let go of bad habits and cultivate good ones. Force is not the right approach. Silent contemplation can help you find the right timing and the right place. Above all, take this opportunity to learn about yourself, about your goals, and about society. Know when to turn off the news. Enjoy the tranquil beauty of nature. Find pride in survival, and allow the humbling that society has suffered to bring you a deeper appreciation for who and what you cherish.
Monday, November 9th: Moon in Virgo. This is great energy to start off the week. Get organized, tie up loose ends and make a plan for what you’d like to accomplish. Mercury (Virgo’s ruler) is in the last degrees of Libra about to move into Scorpio tomorrow, so notice insights regarding relationships.
Tuesday, November 10th: Moon in Virgo, and Mercury reenters Scorpio at 0 degrees. Ground through nurturing your needs and organizing your home life. Good day for releasing, purging and breaking bad habits. With Mars stationing, watch out for crazy drivers; avoid social awkwardness.
Wednesday, November 11th: Moon in Libra. Normally a very sociable time, but take some time for yourself today, and bring your life into balance.
Thursday, November 12th: Moon in Libra, and Jupiter exactly conjunct Pluto at 22 Capricorn. Identify areas in your life that require reform and repair. Let go of habits and beliefs from the past that create unnecessary suffering. Meditate.
Friday, November 13th: Moon in Scorpio and Mars Direct at 15 Aries. Plans could change, best to go with the flow. If you need to have meetings or work through agreements, do it in the morning. Remember to focus on balance and win-win resolutions. Excellent date night.
Saturday, November 14th: New Moon in Scorpio at 9:07pm. Do Magick! Expect occult experiences and deep conversations with people. With Mars still retrograde, reflect on passions and think about what corner of your life needs action.
Sunday, November 15th: New Moon in Scorpio continues.
Weekly Astrology Posts + new Patreon page
Hey Astrology fans!
I’m making a shift with my weekly astrology posts because I’ve set up a new Patreon page! Yay! From now on I’ll be sharing my weekly astrology posts with the public on Wednesdays, but offering early access on Sundays by following the link below.
If you’d like these posts delivered straight to your inbox every Sunday evening, feel free to join here, it’s only $4 a month: https://www.patreon.com/LizRose93
Thanks for your continued support and interest!
Week of November 2nd
CURRENTLY:
Sun at 10 Scorpio
Mercury Stationing DIRECT at 26 Libra
Venus at 5 Libra (rulership)
Mars RETROGRADE at 16 Aries (Rulership)
Jupiter at 21 Capricorn (fall, very weak)
Saturn at 26 Capricorn (rulership)
Neptune RETROGRADE at 18 Pisces (rulership, strong)
Pluto at 22 Capricorn
North Node at 22 Gemini
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We had a life changing Full Moon Halloween on Saturday! Did you feel the intensity? It was an eye-opener, with the Full Moon conjunct Uranus at 8 Taurus – which also means the Sun and Uranus were in exact opposition. This is liberation, the desire to do something different, alongside revelations about how you want to live in the future. Whatever unresolved issues have been hanging around for the last two years, Saturday’s Moon gave you the needed clarity and answers. The power of this Full Moon will continue to unfold this week.
Also, the Sun traveling through the tunnels of Scorpio gives us opportunities to define our boundaries – especially the internal ones. Can you hold the line if your Will is tested? Can you push away that extra cookie? If someone asks you to do something that goes against your heart and experience, will you let them cross your boundary? Scorpio wants you to define what you’ll put up with and what you won’t – and to mean it. The Universe is asking us to be real, and get honest with ourselves this month. This ties in to the greater purpose of the year 2020 as we go through the “Great Awakening” – we are each healing our relationship with ourselves.
Are your actions and goals in alignment with your true and highest self?
As for the election, it is inextricably tied to the unearthing of America’s shadow, as our country approaches it’s Pluto return. All the repressed, toxic energy under the surface of the United States is coming up to be purged and healed. I see the toxic underbelly as racism, gender discrimination, and the disparities between the rich and the poor. The forgotten people, the mentally ill, the incarcerated… all need to be acknowledged and treated with maturity and vision. Rampant greed must be checked and the welfare of all people made the priority. On Tuesday either we will have a new president, or we will have another four years with a man who represents this shadow side. Try and remember that the Big Picture is really about the US confronting and dealing with it’s shadow side.
Monday, November 2nd: Moon in Gemini. Mercury is Gemini’s ruler, and is currently standing still over our heads at 26 Libra. Mercury goes Direct on Tuesday at 9:50am Pacific. If you have important agreements to hammer out with people, aim to do it anytime after Wednesday. We will see huge amounts of information today and tomorrow as Mercury stations – be sure and research facts.
Tuesday, November 3rd: Moon in Gemini, Mercury Direct at 9:50am Pacific. This is going to be a crazy day with hearsay and different, conflicting currents of information. Stay grounded, and try to stay off the roads if possible. Electronics might experience hiccups. This will be a crazy day in the news, and things will not be as they appear to be at first. Take heart. Why oh why do we have an election while Mercury stations Direct… I don’t know.
Wednesday, November 4th: Moon VOC in Gemini until 1:45pm Pacific. This is the day to stay inside if possible. The Cancer Moon in the evening will bring emotions and sensitivity to the Mercury Direct instability. If there’s going to be protesting over the election, it will likely start tonight.
Thursday, November 5th: Moon in Cancer is part of a big Water trine today. Moon in Cancer trines Sun in Scorpio, and they both trine Neptune in Pisces. It’s a deliciously creative day, so let poetic, artistic inspirations flow. Psychic intuitiveness runs high, and romance is in the air. People will be sensitive today, so allow for people’s feelings.
Friday, November 6th: Moon in Cancer. Lots of sensitivity, sweetness and nostalgia, however Mercury squares Saturn once again. Communications could be limited or take a serious tone, and diplomacy may be difficult with authority figures. On the other side of the equation, it’s a great day to find authenticity with people. Organize your time and practice those internal boundaries.
Saturday, November 7th: Moon VOC in Cancer. Day of rest after a crazy week. Get creative and connect with friends; use your imagination and be receptive to inspiration and visions. Venus trine Uranus will bring some excitement to art and romance. Watch for unconventional romance and push creative boundaries.
Full Moon Halloween
Happy Witches New Year! Full Moon at 7:49am Pacific Halloween morning. A Full Moon in Taurus is sensual, exalted, indulgent and grounded. Normally we would go for nature hikes and eat comfort food, but Uranus is conjunct (together) with this Full Moon which brings revolutionary changes. Your eyes will be opened this weekend, and revelations will fill your mind. It will feel good because you’ll have some questions finally answered that have been hanging around for the last couple of years.
Uranus (awakening) first went into the sign of Taurus in May 2018, and it’s shaken up our perspectives on money, family, health and self esteem. Uranus hasn’t been in Taurus since the 1930’s, and it will be there for a few more years. Tomorrow’s full moon brings this transit front and center, so you can clearly see how Uranus in Taurus is effecting your life. You can see what this time is about.
The full moon today clarifies a new sense of self worth and value, and brings the start of a new life. The Scorpio Sun clarifies your internal boundaries, and shows where you personally draw the line to protect your new, inherent value.
Mercury in a perfect square to Saturn suggests you will turn a corner in how you communicate from your new, personal reality; AND the Sun opposes Uranus, which underlines self liberation. Any person or situation that challenges your new perspective will be released. We’ve made a decision to change on the inside, and it will have a positive effect on how we live in the world.
Mara
Modern artist’s conception of the Slavic Goddess Mara (Morena) – the Goddess of Winter, Death, and Rebirth.
Some modern Slavic pagans celebrate her on or around November 1, which they call Day of Mara. Another old name for that time of the year is Dedi (Dzyadi) – meaning, Grandparents or Forebearers. On that day the veil between the worlds of spirits and men, the living and the dead grows thin and both worlds can easily mix.
Mara covers the earth with white snow so that Nature can sleep and rest and gather strength to get ready for the new cycle of life in Spring. She is called the Goddess of Life Eternal and Resurrection.
Week of October 26th: Halloween
CURRENTLY:
Sun at 4 Scorpio
Mercury RETROGRADE at 2 Scorpio
Venus at 28 Virgo
Mars RETROGRADE at 16 Aries (Rulership)
Jupiter at 20 Capricorn (fall, very weak)
Saturn at 25 Capricorn (rulership)
Neptune RETROGRADE at 18 Pisces (rulership)
Pluto at 22 Capricorn
North Node at 22 Gemini
Crossroads. This is the week leading up to Halloween; a primal festival with ancient roots. You can feel it in your bones. It is the last harvest festival of the year, the witches new year, and the last night before the fairies go underground for the winter. The boundary between the worlds of the living and the dead is at it’s thinnest point for the next several weeks.
Halloween is one of the year’s four cross-quarter holidays, and marks the midway point between the autumnal equinox and the winter solstice. However, True Halloween occurs when the Sun reaches 15 degrees Scorpio, which is usually around November 7th. The Sun went into Scorpio last week, and we are officially in the season of death and rebirth.
Last week we released an old relationship pattern that no longer worked for us, and this week we begin a deep dive into exploring our passions, healing psychological wounds and uncovering hidden agendas. Sun in Scorpio represents honesty and passion, and wherever it appears in your chart is where you walk fearlessly through the shadows to find passion and treasure.
Monday, October 26th: Moon in Pisces. Sun and Moon in water signs makes this an emotional and spiritual start to the week. Take a break if you have to, so you can find your true feeling about a situation, and then express this honestly in your communications. Moon in Pisces allows for self forgiveness, abstract thoughts and creativity.
Tuesday, October 27th: Moon in Pisces, Mercury and Venus BOTH enter Libra! Yay! It’s rare for two planets to enter a sign at the same time – and from opposite ends. Mercury backs out of Scorpio and lands on the last degree of Libra, rehashing situations from the last week of September. Cardinal signs (Aries, Cancer, Libra and Capricorn) get some pleasant avenues opening up as Venus arrives at 0 Libra.
Wednesday, October 28th: Moon in Aries. Watch out for head strong behavior or taking on more than you can handle. The best use of this energy is handling situations that take courage and strength, and setting boundaries.
Thursday, October 29th: Moon in Aries conjuncts Mars and Black Moon Lilith. Tests might come up around your identity and who you are becoming. Best to go slow and stay present with yourself so you can respond properly in the moment. Each of us has a new way of being, and a new life, but with Mars still retrograde, it’s not the time to push forward yet.
Friday, October 30th: All Hallows Eve. Moon VOC, then entering Taurus at 2:19pm Pacific. We are in the realm of Halloween and the orb of the Full Moon. Any activity that awakens the five senses is highlighted. It’s a sensual full moon near Black Moon Lilith, so equality and respect are demanded. Very passionate night.
Saturday, October 31st: Halloween. Full (Blue) Moon at 8 Taurus at 7:49am Pacific. Love, beauty, passion, commitment, nature, animals, and the Divine Feminine are the energies to focus on this weekend. Try and avoid power struggles, control issues and obsession. Pushiness and bullying will get you nowhere. Listen to others, respect their wishes and look to the common good. Taurus wants us all to be healthy and secure, so trick or treating will be on hold this year.
Sunday, November 1st: Witches New Year. Sun in Scorpio/Moon in Taurus. The phoenix rises from the ashes. Day to take stock, rest, and decide where to focus your energies for the coming Winter.
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