Week of April 26th

CURRENTLY:
Sun at 7 Taurus
Mercury at 25 Aries
Venus at 16 Gemini
Mars at 18 Aquarius
Jupiter at 26 Capricorn
Saturn at 1 Aquarius
Pluto RETROGRADE at 24 Capricorn
Neptune at 20 Pisces

The Saturn-Pluto conjunction has spawned a deep shift in our culture – the birth of a new paradigm. The spread of Covid 19 has created hardship for a lot of people, but it’s also brought some positive changes. We are spending more time with loved ones, working from home, cooking hearty meals, buying less, focusing on health, and healing the Earth. Interesting these things fall squarely under the sign of Cancer, where the North Node (the future) sits directly opposite the conjunction. What do your want your life to be like in the new world?

The North Node is at 0 degrees Cancer until May 5th! This is the point of the Summer Solstice and highest light of the year. The door is open for us to express our vulnerability, and to nurture ourselves and others.

The effects of the Pluto-Saturn conjunction on January 12th force us to face reality, but also reveal what is ultimately important. It will dominate this entire year. The virus is not going away, and it WILL come back strongly in the Fall, so be vigilant.

Pluto (catharsis, regeneration) went retrograde on Saturday, April 25, and now Saturn, Venus and Jupiter will be going retrograde in the next couple of weeks. This summer is about retreading ground we’ve already covered. It’s time to go within and retool our lives in order to fit ourselves into this new world. Pluto brings a deep purging and releasing of things that no longer suit us. It can mean taking online classes and creating a new career. You can do it. What have you always wanted to do? Now’s the time.

Sunday, April 26th – Moon in Gemini. Sun conjunct Uranus at 6 Taurus. Pay attention to signs and sudden revelations regarding your life path. Some good information from the universe is available today about who you are and the direction you need to be going.

Monday, April 27th – Moon in Cancer. Mercury into Taurus joining the Sun and Uranus. Use caution when communicating. Think things through before speaking. Expect revelations and truths revealed.

Tuesday, April 28th – Moon in Cancer. Mercury squares Saturn. Be aware of timing in your conversations, and owning your responsibility.

Wednesday, April 29th – Moon in Cancer. Good day to organize the house and be kind to yourself. Comfort food!

Thursday, April 30th – Moon in Leo. Excellent for public speaking, or watching entertainment. Launch a video or chat with friends. Connect with others.

Friday, May 1st – Moon void of course in Leo. BELTANE. Ancient festival of Spring. Celebrate the blooming of flowers and the green of the Earth. Be spontaneous and take a walk.

On a personal note – even in the midst of these turbulent times – I’m still here doing readings for you! I’m only booking phone readings at this time, but I have several different options and they are very easy to schedule here.
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I thank you for your trust and wish you good health!

Handling stress

“Wednesday, April 22
Coping With Stress – from the “Language of Letting Go

Inevitably, there are times of stress in our lives. Sometimes, the stress is outside or around us. We’re feeling balanced, but our circumstances are stressful. Sometimes, the stress is within; we feel out of balance.

When the stress is external and internal, we experience our most difficult times.

During stressful times, we can rely more heavily on our support systems. Our friends and groups can help us feel more balanced and peaceful in spite of our stressful conditions.

Affirming that the events taking place are a temporarily uncomfortable part of a good, solid plan can help. We can assure ourselves that we will get through. We won’t be destroyed. We won’t crumple or go under.

It helps to go back to the basics to focus on detachment, dealing with feelings, and taking life one day at a time.

Our most important focus during times of stress is taking care of ourselves. We are better able to cope with the most irregular circumstances; we are better able to be there for others, if we’re caring for ourselves. We can ask ourselves regularly: What do we need to do to take care of ourselves? What might help us feel better or more comfortable?

Self-care may not come as easily during times of stress. Self-neglect may feel more comfortable. But taking care of us always works.

Today, I will remember that there is no situation that can’t be benefited by taking care of myself.”

Week of April 20th: New Moon in Taurus

New Moon at
3 degrees Taurus ❤
This Wednesday at
7:26pm Pacific

CURRENTLY:
Sun at 0 Taurus
Mercury at 14 Aries
Venus at 13 Gemini
Mars at 14 Aquarius
Jupiter at 26 Capricorn
Saturn at 1 Aquarius
Pluto at 24 Capricorn
Neptune at 19 Pisces

The Sun moved into Taurus Sunday morning at 7:45am Pacific. This can bring a feeling of being more comfortable in our homes – especially during this Saturnian lockdown. Taurus connects us to nature; bringing grounding, family and stability. We work in our gardens, cook sumptuous meals, and find comfort in the pleasures of life. However, the Sun and Moon near Uranus (sudden change) on Wednesday will underline the massive changes currently happening on Earth.

This is a good week to slow WAY down and send some love to the planet. Uranus near the Sun turns our thoughts to the future and what we would like to create. It could also bring more news on unemployment, and crazy volatility to the stock market. Set some intentions for your house, health, family and finances.

We still have Saturn, Pluto and Jupiter traveling together through late Capricorn and early Aquarius. This will be happening all year, and it’s the astrological impetus for the pandemic. I believe the pandemic will continue throughout this year, and come back strongly in the Fall. Pluto and Saturn conjunct (Jan. 12th, 2020) is a rare event, and spawned the 1918 flu as well as the discovery of HIV. For us, this event has led to the spread of a dangerous virus, which has caused a global economic slowdown and staggering job losses (Pluto and Saturn conjunct in Capricorn – the sign of big business).

We’re about to enter a new phase of it however. There’s a heaviness to this week as Pluto grinds to a halt and stations retrograde on Saturday. Pluto rules toxic catharsis, repressed energy, evolution, purging, healing, creation, destruction, and deep truth. It moves us to regenerate into a new persona – the growth that our life path demands. When you see a change before you that can’t be denied, that you simply MUST take, that’s usually Pluto. It’s an ego death. When Pluto stations (stands still) in the skies, it’s energy is amplified – and that’s this weekend.

It’s best to take the bull by the horns and be proactive, rather than to be at the mercy of Pluto. Take a sober look at your life, where you feel powerless, and make changes as best you can with your reaction. It’s a really hard, grinding energy, but Pluto is just giving you some tough love; it wants you to be a more authentic version of yourself on a VERY deep level.

Monday, April 20th – Moon in Aries. You might want to leap forward and be spontaneous today, but it’s best to be cautious and give things some time. The Sun (Taurus) squares Saturn (in Aquarius) today causing chafing against boundaries. Incorporate responsibility, learning and patience before taking action. Do some boundaries need to be established?

Tuesday, April 21st – Moon in Aries. Sun square Saturn still in effect. We are in the deepest, darkest parts of the Moon cycle now, preparing for rebirth with the New Moon tomorrow. Try not to work too much today – instead be in solitude.

Wednesday, April 22nd – Moon in Taurus. New Moon in Taurus at 7:26pm Pacific. It’s also Earth Day! Kind of perfect. Take a walk in the park. A new 28 day cycle is beginning today so start things now. Moon square Saturn today asks us to emotionally process the boundaries we set on Monday.

Thursday, April 23rd – Moon in Taurus. New Moon energy unfolds.

Friday, April 24th – Moon in Taurus. Day of love, connection and art. Be with the ones you love either virtually or in person. Do something creative.

Saturday, April 25th – Moon in Gemini. Mercury (in Aries) squares Pluto (in Capricorn) at 9:36am. We HAVE to speak our truth today, but PLEASE be gentle about it. No anger or raised voices today, just truth and love. Pluto goes retrograde at 11:54am. There is a theme of death and rebirth this weekend. How would you like to make this pandemic a turning point in your life? How will you manifest a positive path for yourself that respects the most meaningful parts of you?

Sunday, April 26th – Sun conjunct Uranus is exact. Along with the Pluto station, this aspect brings an inescapable drive for freedom, independence and to do something different. This is a great thing, just be aware of other people’s feelings.

Dopamine fasting

Profile of man with symbol neurons in brain. Thinking like stars, the cosmos inside human, background night sky

Everyone has dopamine in their brains as a neurotransmitter. It gives you the desire to pursue pleasure and feelings of reward and happiness. Apparently, video games and scrolling social media, (and cocaine) flood the brain with abnormal amounts of it, and you can build up a “tolerance” which requires you to play more games and do more scrolling.

And some folks are now engaging in “dopamine fasting”, which can bring down your tolerance. This enhances focus and gets emotions on an even keel. Here’s a very interesting article about it.

Activities that flood our brains with the feel-good-reward neurotransmitter dopamine are:

scrolling on social media
playing video games
listening to music
watching TV
eating junk food
playing on our phones

… basically anything that doesn’t take a lot of work. Reading, learning something new, and math puzzles are things we’d rather not do because they are hard. But in the end they give us healthier levels of dopamine, AND they ward off dementia (along with exercise). I know I’m personally happier when I’m giving my brain a work out.

Sunlight exposure also activates our dopamine receptors, and any type of light activates dopamine release in our eyes! That’s why we stay hypnotized by our screens.

This video gives some great information about dopamine, and how to balance it’s levels in your brain:

Week of April 13th

Sun at 25 Aries
Mercury DIRECT at 3 Aries
Venus at 9 Gemini and Mars at 11 Aquarius.
Jupiter at 26 Capricorn (in it’s fall, or weakened).
Saturn at 2 Aquarius (rulership), Pluto at 24 Capricorn.
Neptune at 19 Pisces (rulership)

Responsibility is the theme right now. Put all your energy into things you have control over, and ignore everything else. Control, responsibility, discipline and hard work are the qualities of Saturn, and we are heavily influenced by the planet this week. You can see it for yourself in the night sky starting Tuesday; watch for the Moon, Jupiter, Saturn and Mars in a straight line through the sign of Capricorn. The Saturn-Pluto conjunction from January 12th, is a rare event that changes the world forever. We’ve seen it play out in the form of the Coronavirus. This point of the conjunction has been energized by Mars and expanded by Jupiter in the last few weeks, mirroring the escalation of cases and deaths.

With the Moon traversing the same area starting tomorrow, we could become more emotional over the shut down, financial collapse, sickness and death. Everyone has been touched by a loss on some level. We will be processing what’s happening to us, and the loss of the life we were living just three months ago. Focus on nurturing yourself and living in the present. Are your needs met? Are sleeping well? Do you have people to talk to?

This week is the dark of the Moon – it’s waning 4th quarter. Take some time for solitude and to tie up loose ends. Reflect and envision what you’d like to create in May, and begin it next Wednesday, April 23rd – the New Moon in Taurus.

Monday, April 13th – Moon in Capricorn. Mercury in Aries squares the Saturn-Pluto point. Day of hard work and applying yourself; get stuff done! Not a good day to get concessions from authority, so hold off until later this week to ask your boss for anything important.

Tuesday, April 14th – Moon in Capricorn. Sun square the Saturn-Pluto point… how do we make the personal vision for our lives fit in with this new world paradigm? You might feel the drive to charge forward, but you have to remain strategic in your actions. It’s the balance between dreams and reality.

Wednesday, April 15th – Moon in Aquarius. Focus on groups and teamwork. We are at the lowest energy of our 28-day-Moon cycle, the 4th quarter, so focus on completing projects and ending bad habits. There’s a lot of tension today, as the Sun squares the conjunction of Pluto, Jupiter and the Moon. The friction lies between our personal vision, and adapting to the new state of the World.

Thursday, April 16th – Moon in Aquarius. Think ahead to the future and your goals. Express your uniqueness and the genius within you.

Friday, April 17th – Moon in Pisces. Sweet, romantic and creative day. Nice break after all of the tension this week.

Saturday, April 18th – Moon in Pisces

Sunday, April 19th – Moon in Pisces, Sun into TAURUS at 7:45am Pacific. As the Sun enters the pleasurable, earthy sign of Taurus, it immediately makes a square to Saturn in Aquarius. This asks us to set practical goals and work hard to achieve them. Taurus enhances our need for stability, but we must continue to move forward with our plans at the same time.

Don’t Ask Him Where Your Relationship is Going Because He’s Telling You the Whole Time

You just don’t like the answer

EXCELLENT post by Niki Marinis:

“If he’s not asking you out often, he’s not interested in a relationship. If he only texts you when he’s bored at work, he’s not interested in a relationship. If you only hear from him in the middle of the night, he’s not interested in anything but sex.

This is also why you don’t only date HIM, you date tons of guys at the same time. Let the best man win, damn it.

What has this guy done to deserve your exclusivity? What has he done to prove to you that you should cut off all your other options?

You pressing him for a verbal answer isn’t going to make him want to be with you if he doesn’t already. It isn’t going to make you look like a confident, sexy woman, either.

A confident sexy woman is paying attention to who is paying attention to her. Period. If it’s not him, then he’s out of the running, or very low on the list.

This is YOUR love life. This is YOUR time and energy. Don’t be so eager to shove it in some random guy’s face. Stop committing to men simply because YOU like him. That doesn’t mean he likes YOU. Don’t choose him and then try to make him want you.

Stop opening the door every five seconds looking out to see who’s coming up the walk way. Be too goddamn busy to care who the fuck is coming to your door. And only open it for those who have the fucking balls to knock on it. Stop opening it and waving them in from the street.

Stop saying words. Walk the fuck away. They’ll notice that.

I was up late last night watching trash TV at the hotel my friend got to bribe me into taking her to LAX. I’m a sucker for down pillows and comforters and rooms I don’t have to clean.

She put on a show called Marrying Millions. Yep, that show exists. And I saw a perfect example of exactly what I’m talking about.

The couple is a 34 yo woman and a 29 yo millionaire entrepreneur/rapper man. They’ve been dating for a year. He got her a diamond bracelet for her birthday, not an engagement ring and she was pissed. She decided she needed to talk to him about this. (DON’T DO IT, I’m screaming at the screen)

She wants to know where this relationship is going. (yawn) She’s 34 and wants to get married and have kids and start a family.

It’s a relationship, not a business transaction. You’re dealing with an actual person with their own feelings and wants and timeline, not an inanimate object you can put anywhere you want.

He said he loves her and wants to spend the rest of his life with her but he’s not ready to get married tomorrow. She doesn’t want to accept that. She wants a guarantee that if she waits he’ll marry her.

THAT’S NOT HOW RELATIONSHIPS WORK

No one can guarantee you shit. That’s the risk you take in love. Do you love him? Then it shouldn’t matter when it happens. And pressuring him isn’t going to make it happen any sooner.

Only it did. He took her to a ring shop the next day.

But here’s the thing: her pressure didn’t make HIM any more ready to marry her. It made him afraid to lose her, sure. So she was going to get a Shut the Fuck Up ring out of fear instead of an inspired, heartfelt proposal.

She said to him, “Are you doing this because you feel like I pressured you?” And THAT’S why you don’t do this kind of shit, because you will NEVER know the truth. You will NEVER KNOW if he asked you because you pressured him or because he really wanted to.

The ONLY way to know if a man truly wants to be with you is if it’s HIS idea, HIS choice, of his own volition and not from any emotional manipulation on your part.

Isn’t that what you want? Someone who wants you because you’re you and not because you have to convince/threaten/pressure them to be with you? That screams desperate, not confident. That screams willing to settle, not you’re the best choice for me.

Work on yourself. Build your confidence, self-respect, self-worth, self-esteem.

The more you love yourself the less you’ll be willing to settle for and/or throw yourself at the next remotely passable guy who shows you basic human kindness that you confuse for romantic interest.

SPOILER: the diamond bracelet was CZs and they’re still not engaged. Shocker.

what to do

In the Time of Pandemic

And people stayed at home
And read books
And listened
And they rested
And did exercises
And made art and played
And learned new ways of being
And stopped and listened
More deeply
Someone meditated, someone prayed
Someone met their shadow
And people began to think differently
And people healed.
And in the absence of people who
Lived in ignorant ways
Dangerous, meaningless and heartless,
The earth also began to heal
And when the danger ended and
People found themselves
They grieved for the dead
And made new choices
And dreamed of new visions
And created new ways of living
And completely healed the earth
Just as they were healed.

– Kitty O’Meara, 2020

Photo taken during Spanish flu, 1919