Singular focus, i.e. focusing on doing one thing at a time, is essential for creativity, productivity and mental health. It’s been proven over and over again that multi tasking DOES NOT WORK. It’s not good for our brains or emotional health. I struggle with this a lot, especially being 58 years old. I feel like I’m running out of time on this planet and there’s so much I want to do! For younger people nowadays it’s even harder with keeping a house together, working sometimes two or more jobs and raising kids.
I came across the podcast on focus yesterday and found it very interesting. I thought I would share it here in case someone else can benefit from it! Try doing one thing at a time for a couple of days! You don’t have to be perfect, just TRY it. You might feel more peaceful and get more done 🙂
Friday is Freya’s Day (comes from the Nordic Goddess Freya), and the number 13 used to be a sacred number in pagan times because it represented the number of Full Moons in a year – the number of times women menstruated. Doesn’t listen to folks that say today is “unlucky”… it is sacred to the Goddess.
In Norway and Denmark the little creature called The Nisse is deeply ingrained in winter solstice and Yule traditions.
The legends of the nisse dates back to ancient pre-Christian times, and is a treasured part of folklore.
Nisse is a household spirit that is responsible for the care and prosperity of a farm or family.
Nisse live in people’s houses or barns inside the so-called Nowhere Space; a pocket dimension made up of the spaces behind bookcases, the tops of cupboards that you can’t quite reach, and other such unused space.
They are ancestor spirits and often seen as the farmer who cleared the forest to build the farm and who in pre-Christian times would have been buried on the farm in a mound.
The name Nisse in Old Norse means ‘dear little relative’, and their Swedish counterpart, tomte, means the old homestead man/spirit.
According to tradition, they secretly live in a house or barn and act as its guardian.
If treated well, they protect children and animals from evil and misfortune, and they also help with chores and farm work.
Despite their size, the nisse possess an immense strength. They are also believed to be shapeshifters able to take a shape far larger than an adult man.
Although Nisse are connected to farm animals in general, his most treasured animal was the horse.
Belief had it that one could see which horse was the nisse’s favourite as it would be especially healthy and well taken care of. Sometimes the tomte would even braid its hair and tail.
Sometimes actually undoing these braids could mean misfortune or angering the tomte.
If anyone spills something on the floor in the house it is wise to shout a warning to the nisse below. It is also a requirement to please the spirit with gifts – a particular special gift was a bowl of rice porridge on Christmas Eve.
It is thought that if the Nisse doesn’t get their porridge or beer, they will steal your happiness and play havoc with your farm – their trickery could contribute to crop failure and sickness for both animals and people if he was not treated well.
Nisse are deeply ingrained in Norwegian culture and tradition and to this day, children grow up with stories of the nisse with family members masquerading as nisse by putting on a mask and a costume on Christmas Eve, distributing the presents and asking the children if they have been good.
Instead of giving Santa Clause milk and cookies on Christmas Day, children in Norway and Denmark prepare rice porridge for the nisse and leaves it for him outside the house on Christmas Eve.
And of course the porridge has to be topped with lots of butter, sugar and cinnamon.
Few things can make us feel crazier than expecting something from someone who has nothing to give. Few things can frustrate us more than trying to make a person someone he or she isn’t; we feel crazy when we try to pretend that person is someone he or she is not. We may have spent years negotiating with reality concerning particular people from our past and our present. We may have spent years trying to get someone to love us in a certain way, when that person cannot or will not.
It is time to let it go. It is time to let him or her go. That doesn’t mean we can’t love that person anymore. It means that we will feel the immense relief that comes when we stop denying reality and begin accepting. We release that person to be who he or she actually is. We stop trying to make that person be someone he or she is not. We deal with our feelings and walk away from the destructive system.
We learn to love and care differently in a way that takes reality into account.
We enter into a relationship with that person on new terms – taking our needs and ourselves into account. If a person is addicted to alcohol, other drugs, misery, or other people, we let go of his or her addiction; we take our hands off it. We give his or her life back. And we, in the process, are given our life and freedom in return.
We stop letting what we are not getting from that person control us. We take responsibility for our life. We go ahead with the process of loving and taking care of ourselves.
We decide how we want to interact with that person, taking reality and our own best interests into account. We get angry, we feel hurt, but we land in a place of forgiveness. We set him or her free, and we become set free from bondage.
This is the heart of detaching in love.
Today, I will work at detaching in love from troublesome people in my life. I will strive to accept reality in my relationships. I will give myself permission to take care of myself in my relationships, with emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual freedom for both people as my goal.
We cannot afford to put our needs on hold, waiting for another person to fulfill us, make our life better, or come around and be who and what we want that person to be. That will create resentment, hostility, an unhealthy dependency, and a mess to deal with later on.
If we have decided we want a particular relationship or want to wait about making a decision in a particular relationship, then we must go on with our own life in the interim.
That can be hard. It can feel natural to put our life on hold. That is when we get caught up in the codependent beliefs: That person can make me happy… I need that particular person to do a particular thing in order to be happy….
That’s a circumstance that can hook our low self-esteem, our self-doubt, and our tendency to neglect ourselves.
We can get into this situation in a number of ways. We can do this waiting for a letter, waiting for a job, waiting for a person, waiting for an event.
We do not have to put our life on hold. There will be repercussions from doing this. Go on with your life. Take life a day at a time.
What is something I could be doing now to take care of myself, make myself feel better, get my needs met in an appropriate, healthy way?
How can I own my power to take care of myself, despite what the other person is or isn’t doing?
What will happen if I break the system and begin taking care of myself?
Sometimes, we get the answer we want immediately. Sometimes, we wait for a while. Sometimes, things don’t work out exactly the way we hoped. But they always work out for good, and often better than we expected.
And in the meantime, we have manifested love for ourselves by living our own life and taking the control away from others. That always comes back to us tenfold, because when we actually manifest love for ourselves, we give our Higher Power, other people, and the Universe permission to send us the love we want and need. Stopping living our life to make a thing happen doesn’t work. All it does is make us miserable, because we have stopped living our life.
Today, I will force myself, if necessary, to live my own life. I will act in my own best interest, in a way that reflects self-love. If I have given power or control of my life to someone other than myself, and someone besides a Power greater than myself, I will take it back. I will begin acting in my own best interests, even if it feels awkward to do that.
Last week, I summarized the history of alchemy in Europe, the Middle East, India and China. Alchemy is tradition spanning millennia that influenced the development of modern chemistry, medicine, philosophy and psychology. Western alchemy blends Greek, Egyptian, Islamic and Jewish traditions, and is a branch of Hermetic philosophy, which is based on the works of Hermes Trismegistus, meaning “Thrice-Great” Hermes.
It is debated why Hermes Trismegistus was called “Thrice-Great” but it is thought that it is because he knows three parts of the wisdom of the universe: alchemy (the operation of the sun), astrology (the operation of the stars) and theurgy (the operation of the gods). Hermes credited the creation of astrology to Zoroaster, founder of the Zoroastrian religion and Middle-Eastern philosopher living sometime in the second half of the 2nd millennium BC.
Hermes Trismegistus is considered the founder of science, religion, mathematics, geometry, alchemy, philosophy, medicine and magic. He…
“I’ve seen women insist on cleaning everything in the house before they could sit down to write… and you know it’s a funny thing about housecleaning… it never comes to an end. The perfect way to stop a woman. A woman must be careful to not allow over-responsibility (or over-respectability) to steal her necessary creative rests, riffs, and raptures. She simply must put her foot down and say no to half of what she believes she “should” be doing. Art is not meant to be created in stolen moments only.”
Sometimes, it is hard to stand in our own truth and trust what we know, especially when others would try to convince us otherwise.
In these cases, others may be dealing with issues of guilt and shame. They may have their own agenda. They may be immersed in denial. They would like us to believe that we do not know what we know; they would like us not to trust ourselves; they would prefer to engage us in their nonsense.
We don’t have to forfeit our truth or our power to others. That is codependency.
Believing lies is dangerous. When we stop trusting our truth, when we repress our instincts, when we tell ourselves there must be something wrong with us for feeling what we feel or believing what we believe, we deal a deadly blow to our self and our health.
When we discount that important part of ourselves that knows what is the truth, we cut ourselves off from our center. We feel crazy. We get into shame, fear, and confusion. We can’t get our bearings when we allow someone to pull the rug from under us.
This does not mean that we are never wrong. But we are not always wrong.
Be open. Stand in our truth. Trust what you know. And refuse to buy into denial, nonsense, bullying, or coercion that would like to take you off course.
Ask to be shown the truth, clearly – not by the person trying to manipulate or convince you, but by yourself, your Higher Power, and the Universe.
Today, I will trust my truth, my instincts, and my ability to ground myself in reality. I will not allow myself to be swayed by bullying, manipulating, games, dishonesty, or people with peculiar agendas.
CURRENTLY: Sun at 25 Libra (in it’s fall, no Sun Magick now) Mercury DIRECT at 10 Libra Venus at 23 Libra (rulership, great for Venus Magick!) Mars at 24 Gemini Jupiter RETROGRADE 1 Aries Saturn RETROGRADE 18 Aquarius (rulership) Uranus RETROGRADE at 17 Taurus Neptune RETROGRADE at 23 Pisces (rulership) Pluto at 26 Capricorn North Node at 13 Taurus
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We begin this week with a fallow, 4th quarter Moon. We are wrapping things up, finishing projects and adjusting to new conditions. This is the last week of the Sun traveling through Libra, and with the Sun and Venus squaring Pluto, we are facing the toxic sides of our relationships. There’s a New Moon ECLIPSE in Scorpio coming next Tuesday, October 25th as well. All of this happening while Saturn, Mars and Pluto stand still in the sky.
Rest and give yourself time to reflect on how you’d like the upcoming Moon cycle to go. If you’d like a personal reading on how this Scorpio cycle will effect you, you can book a short reading with me here for $45.
Wednesday, October 19th: Moon in Leo, and everyone wants attention. Sun/Venus both square Pluto in the morning, revealing the underbelly of relationships. Be gentle when discussing issues with anyone today. Repressed emotions and fears rise to the surface, driving us towards security. Also, Mercury opposes Chiron giving voice to the health and healing of deep emotional wounds. It’s a transformative day.
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